buzzie2 Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 This may sound like a dumb question, but it really freaks me out. A friend of mine that I think I'm in love with is moving to another province for work and thursday is probably the last day I'm going to see him for a long time. So far I have never told him how I feel, I mean I'm sure he knows I'm attracted to him but up to this point we have just been friends, we've never kissed or anything. I know he's attracted to me because I've caught him staring at me in romantic ways. We met each other in a hockey pool. I'm really shy and have a hard time expressing my feelings, especially when it comes to romance. He is also shy too which makes things even more difficult. He is coming over either tomorrow or friday to give me his computer. He wants to be able to email me from home. So far I've been going to the library to access the internet. How can I tell him how I feel without completely embarrasing myself? Is there any subtle tricks I can do to see if he feels the same way about me before I make my move? buzzie2
SuperMonk Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 A warrior does not tell his opponent that he is going to beat him into submission, he just goes and does it.
slubberdegullion Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 It's not a dumb question at all. It goes to the core of how we relate to other people, especially when powerful emotions and decisions are involved. In my experience, there is no single foolproof way to express such loaded emotions. You only have to be brave for a moment, so take the initiative when you feel the time is right. You'll be nervous, but so what? You've been nervous before and you survived just fine. Good luck, and let us know how it all turns out!
Outcast Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 I would highly recommend you not confess this to him all at once. People tend to get freaked out at sudden admissions of undying love. Instead say something along the lines of how you wish he wasn't going because you'll miss him awfully. If he says he'll miss you too (and it looks like you're important to him if he's giving you his computer so he can contact you), then you can say something like 'did you ever think we might be good as a couple?' or something along those lines. In short, if you come bounding out declaring your love, you could get shot down severely. It's unlikely , I think, that you'll get the movie ending of him declaring his love, too and you both falling into each other's arms. However if you find out that he is receptive to the idea, work up to suggesting you try an LDR. Problem with LDRs is that unless there's a plan to get together again, they can fizzle out.
Author buzzie2 Posted September 29, 2005 Author Posted September 29, 2005 Well he won't be coming over today but I just talked to him on his cell and he said he is coming over tommorow. I bought him a beautiful friendship circle candle and card telling him what a good friend he is for giving me the computer. The card doesn't say I love him but it talks about how often I think about him and how he always makes me smile, and the warm feeling I get when I think of him. Do you think this would be enough to give him the hint??? I'm getting nervous because I think I"m going to chicken out.
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