LoneBoyOnTheCliff Posted September 7, 2019 Posted September 7, 2019 Hello, I have this crush on a guy in my uni year for months now. I’ve decided to do something about it. I am gay but I am not open about it and I especially tried to avoid people from uni finding out. Asked his best friend for advice since I wasn’t sure he is into guys. She said he probably is, but she doesn’t know for sure either. Found a topic to talk about and started messaging him. We messaged for about 2 weeks (frequency increased over time). During last week I started flirting with him more and noticed he was flirting back over texts(a little more discreet than me but still flirting back). As I made my intentions clear I am into him (but not saying it straightforwardly), I observed the pace didn’t change at all. I was still the one always initiating, he was responding to my texts, being flirtatious from time to time, but he never showed interest outside of that. Never wrote first, never initiated, heck didn't even follow back on IG. Kept it going for a few more days then I’ve stopped writing to him. Its been a week now. He didn't show any reaction/initiate anything. What should I do? Should I message him, should I wait more? His best friend told me he will sort a meeting after uni starts (in about 10 days) P.S.: About what i know about the guy from his best friend. He didn’t have a relationship for years (like 4) and he didn’t have any intimate privacy with anyone before. Also she told me he is shy. He keeps his answers short and roasts me when we text, he is not turning my advances off. I'm extra frustrated about this thing because I made myself vulnerable about being gay in the uni environment (my country isn't so accepting and open about it). I really want to make this work without being desperate xD Please give some advice
d0nnivain Posted September 7, 2019 Posted September 7, 2019 You can't build a relationship through a device & it's futile to try. Since you had some flirtatious rapport through text, move your interactions to real life. Do something, anything with him. Go to a game. Meet at the student union. Hang out at a party. Study. What you do doesn't matter. The fact that you do it together -- not as a date -- will enable you to read him better to determine if he's interested.
Author LoneBoyOnTheCliff Posted September 7, 2019 Author Posted September 7, 2019 he is out of town for 10 more days. i plan on having a way to meet him once he is back, but until then should i keep messaging with him? or just wait for us to meet
d0nnivain Posted September 7, 2019 Posted September 7, 2019 You can keep messaging him to keep the connection alive but realize in person is so much better then with a device between you.
Author LoneBoyOnTheCliff Posted September 7, 2019 Author Posted September 7, 2019 ah, i know, its been frustrating, we've both been away for the last month, since its our last month of vacation before uni starts so really couldn't establish any contact.
d0nnivain Posted September 7, 2019 Posted September 7, 2019 Just put a plan in place: Looking forward to seeing you when the semester starts up. Wanna grab a bite that first night? or I'm probably gonna have a few people over for a welcome back thing; you should drop by.
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