Big Aus Posted September 7, 2019 Posted September 7, 2019 I believe in being honest and upfront. I also try to be patient and understanding. Which I realise may make me a little slow to read between the lines. We've been chatting via dating site and then texts. Every time I have suggested catching up, she has said sure, and then gone dark. I asked her if she wanted to take in a movie, "sure" then nothing. Later i asked the same thing, with a similar result, but managed to at least get her to specify a night. Often she will stop replying, for several hours, then say her phone was flat or she had no coverage. Then she asks if we could change it to dinner I agree and suggest a nice restaurant near her. More hours of silence. She then asks if we can make it somewhere closer to her, and suggests a pub further from her, but closer to me. ok... Then "can we change it to a walk by the ocean?" ok, and I agree to her suggested time. Now today she has pushed it back by a few hours. Let me be clear, none of this bothers me in the slightest. I'm quite fleixible, and if I had something else on, I'd just tell her. But I just worry that maybe she's just not that interested, and I should stop pushing??
Maggiemay1 Posted September 7, 2019 Posted September 7, 2019 Ok so at this point you have a planned meeting place and set time. All you need to do is show up. No more texting in between unless you want to confirm 2 hrs before to say see you at x time and place , looking forward to it. Do not ask for confirmation. If she postpones, changes activity , cancels or is a no show, then delete. Most would have deleted her by now , but make sure this is your last chance! Good luck!
An0nymiss666 Posted September 8, 2019 Posted September 8, 2019 To me, it sounds like she isn’t interested. I’ve dealt with a few men this year who have acted exactly like this. I know it’s frustrating. Same exact deal - “let’s plan something” “sure, I’d love to” then nothing. Then plans changed, delayed, etc. In some cases we would end up getting together and sometimes they would ditch. Regardless it has never worked out in the end when a man has acted like that, as a woman I can say it sounds really wishy washy but there’s always the possibility it’s too early to tell. I also believe in being upfront and honest, always. What I usually do is find a way to tactfully say (or text, whatever) it’s OK if they aren’t interested in hanging out/going on another date/etc. because I’m unsure of where the situation is going or how to read the other person and I just like honesty. It all depends on the person and flow of conversation though. If you’re truly wondering what is going on, you’re no worse off in my opinion.
Lotsgoingon Posted September 8, 2019 Posted September 8, 2019 I could say without reading your post that the answer is yes, you are getting the brushoff ... because if you have to ask if you're getting the brushoff, then the answer is yes you are getting the brushoff. But I did read your post ... yes, changing up plans like that ... the repeated silence after you text her ... really disappointing ... let her go ... don't keep going along with her new ideas. She's not sincere. She apparently lacks the guts and integrity to tell you that she's not interested, and you're having to work to decipher what's going on. Forget her and move on.
chillii Posted September 8, 2019 Posted September 8, 2019 Yeah l'd go with that too , l mean how many damn times already you tried and the disappearing and chopping and changing. Don't think she's into it for whatever reason but just hasn't got the nerve to finish it up. At the very least it just doesn't seem to wanna happen , not a good sign alone.
FMW Posted September 8, 2019 Posted September 8, 2019 Don't initiate plans again. Wait and see if she plans something specific with a specific date and time. If she's interested, she'll do that.
smackie9 Posted September 8, 2019 Posted September 8, 2019 You need to walk away from this one. Actions speak louder than words.
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