Are these signs of a final breakup?

[Ending]

My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 5 years but I have taken short "breaks" from him over the years. We always get back together but lately I've noticed things that I believe are clear signs it's time to make a final break.

 

Essentially, here are my feelings:

 

1. I don’t like the person either one of us has become in this relationship. We aren’t getting along generally and I see no resolution to it.

 

2. We are in a cycle of him lying about his $ issues and me denying him full access to family events.

 

3. Verbal attacks on me have increased.

 

4. He is more selfish and has lack of empathy.

 

5. He has increased his expectations of getting things taken care of (paid for) and has an attitude of “entitlement” – and is angry if he doesn’t get his way.

 

6. I feel numb about him - and almost don't want to be with him - at least it's more peaceful.

 

Time to quit???

[SumGuy]

Sounds like it can be summed up in he wants you to pay his way in life and gets upset when you don't. I don't think this should be expected of either sex in a relationship, so yes that sounds like a problem. From what you describe I would say yes, it sounds like it is time to end, maybe past time. Why have you stopped or decreased inviting him to family events?

How old are each of you (not that that makes much difference)?

[Ending]

we are both in our 60s. When I catch him in lies, I don't want to be with him and then I deinvite him to certain family things.

[d0nnivain]

My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 5 years but I have taken short "breaks" from him over the years.

 

Time to quit???

 

the short answer to your Q is yes. Let this be over once & for all.

 

This break up make up merry go round has been a sign of dysfunction in your relationship for years. It's unhealthy.

 

What would you tell your child or grandchild to do if they came to you with what you have posted here?

[spiritedaway2003]

I feel numb about him - and almost don't want to be with him - at least it's more peaceful.

 

If you are sure you are no longer committed to fixing things with him, then maybe it's best to end it. It sounds like you know what you want already.

 

Unless it bothers you that you'd be alone, age doesn't make a difference. If it gives you your peace...

 

Best of luck.

[preraph]

Yes, things are not working out. The gulf is widening. Don't think he's the one to make a family with, not for you, maybe for someone else.

[Ending]

Before I could tell him we are over he sent me a message that he is taking me to the nicest restaurant in town tonight (it’s his favorite not mine) and he wants me to dress sexy. I suspect he is trying to distract me. He’s really something else.