BJP1991 Posted September 5, 2019 Posted September 5, 2019 Hey everyone, Matched a pretty girl on bumble the other day, chatted briefly and got her number. Texted her last night briefly and after 2-3 exchanged messages I asked her out for next week. She said she was free this weekend, but I’m mostly busy all weekend and didn’t want to move plans around yet for a girl I don’t know in-person. I knew my Sunday evening was open, but usually like that as some personal time before the work week. We settled on next Friday (1week and 1 day ahead of time). She seems receptive and open to the date, and is positive I her responses and the time it takes for her to reply. The date is for next Friday at a bar near where I live. Now, I do happen to be a bit free this Sunday night (and I know she is too, since she said so) and I’m wondering if I should invite her to join me out for a drink Sunday evening perhaps. There’s a cool bar I love that’s in her neighborhood, so maybe grab a beer or two and meet in-person prior to our Friday date. If so, when and how should I go about doing this? Is it even a good idea to try to see her sooner than a full week + 1 day from now? I know that’s a lot of time, usually I try to make dates for 2-5 days ahead, but 8-9 days is pushing it for my style. Thinking something like “Hey! I’m thinking about heading to XYZ bar Sunday afternoon for a beer, want to join me for one or two?” Or, is it totally useless and just let the first date happen as planned? I guess I see this as a chance to (1) meet her sooner and decide if I actually am interested for the date on Friday after meeting her in-person, and (2) reduce the chance of a flake on next Friday’s date. Thoughts?
preraph Posted September 5, 2019 Posted September 5, 2019 I wouldn't. I would just stick to the plan and not rock the boat. It's only another week. 1
PRW Posted September 5, 2019 Posted September 5, 2019 (edited) No. Stick with the plan. Don't make yourself look like the needy little boy that has no self discipline. Don't be texting and calling her all the time in between for that same reason. Besides that, the more anticipation that builds, the more she looks forward to seeing you,...the better the date will be. And you will actually have stuff to talk about since you didn't blow it by talking about everything before the date. Women are attracted to mystery and love to "figure out" things about you. So be mysterious and let her have things to figure out. Edited September 5, 2019 by PRW
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