Ex wife wants to go to my mom's funeral but I'm worried if my girlfriend would care

[Veronica73]

I’m sorry about your mom.

 

I don’t see anything wrong with your ex going to your mom’s funeral. It seems respectful and kind. Unless there is some huge drama or she and you had a horrible falling out, it seems like a good thing, to me.

[Art_Critic]

I'm very sorry about your mom, JS. I think that if your ex wants to pay her respects, and as far as you know her and your mom actually got along okay (in other words, if the ex wanting to be there doesn't strike you as odd or strange), it's a no-brainer: let her come. Explain it to your gf as the ex just wanting to say goodbye.

 

I'd think it might be a red flag if your gf objected.

 

My thoughts exactly...

 

Thanks GT... so I didn't have to write it out

[Lotsgoingon]

what do you mean by "manipulative" Lgo?

 

I mean the ex would be going to the funeral to genuinely mourn, not to secretly win back her former partner and so on.

[justwhoiam]

Unless your ex wife did something that deserves shunning, then I think it's quite appropriate for her to attend the funeral. She was family for a time, that isn't erased unless you had a nasty divorce.

 

Exes are a part of life, it doesn't sound like your girlfriend will have a problem with it.

I second this. What about humanity, compassion, and genuine affection for someone who was part of your life? (And I'm referring to the mother, not to the husband).

 

Well first of all ... for funerals ... sometimes even old enemies come to pay respects ... Frankly, as someone who has buried many family members, I was grateful for ANYONE who was there. I mean that literally.

I feel the same. Besides two-faced people, I'd be grateful for anyone there.

 

My mom attended my grandfather’s (dad’s dad) funeral. My parents were together 25 years and were divorced 4 years at the moment of the funeral. She was also at my grandpa’s place for his last father’s day (he was sick so we knew it was is last one) and my dad and his girlfriend were also there. It was about my grandfather and not them (mom, dad and gf).

Exactly. The funeral is about the person who is no more, not about the relatives/family members. We sometimes forget about that.