FundreaCole Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 Hi. I need some advice because i dont know what to do... This guy i have been friends with because of my ex, well we started dating like 3 or 4 weeks ago.. and he told me that he has cared about me for a long time and has liked me since he met me ( my ex met me the same day). Well now he is telling me that he loves me... do you think that its possible to love someone that quickly.. we get along really well and we have been spending a lot of time together... and we both care about each other. He told me that he loves me more then he has ever loved anybody before and he also said that he knows that one day i will be his wife... it kinda freaks me out but i can see it possibly happening. Do you think that its lust or maybe it really could be love.
fusangite Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 Do you think that its lust or maybe it really could be love.How long ago did you meet your ex? Is that length of time enough to fall in love with someone? Because that's how long this fellow has had to fall in love with you.
housebaby Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 It sounds like he is "infatuated" (A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction) with you. People can really confuse this with LOVE. He may be in love with love itself...wanting deeply to have it returned. I would say that he probably is being unrealistic. How well does he actually know you? is he idolizing you? is he only seeing the good not the bad? is he overlooking all flaws (I mean character flaws, not physical ones)? I had lots of guys say they "love" me and that I am "perfect"...that's unrealistic. It takes time to get to know a person and truly love them (good and bad). This guy is IN romantic love. I would ask him to slow it down and just get to know you first, before professing undying love...to me it sounds immature/needy/flighty...but that's my opinion.
SuperMonk Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 I concur with housebaby, the guy is simply infatuated. If a guy said that 3 months into the dating relationship, sure I might believe it - but less than that I'm skeptical.
slubberdegullion Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 Housebaby nailed it. There is much wisdom in her post.
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