ThisisIt606 Posted September 2, 2019 Posted September 2, 2019 Let me start by saying that I have always dated men. However every so often a woman comes along that I REALLY admire for her success, talent, and I find to be attractive etc. I have started to develop an intense crush on a woman whom I recently started pet sitting for. While she is 10+ years my senior and is not gay, she is very accomplished in her field and very talented. She's also kept her self fit/looking good. She gave me a copy of one of her artistic endeavors and I honestly really enjoyed it and let her know. I follow her on social media as that's how she also promotes her craft. We have exchanged comments and likes on various posts. She is very sweet, outgoing, friendly, and considerate. She tends to spend many hours outside with her pet. I ran into her a few days ago and she told me I could come by anytime to see them if I get lonely watching other people's pets. I really just want to be friends with her because I think she's so cool, smart, friendly, a really interesting person. However I don't want to come off as a "creep" and not really sure how to become friends with her? We communicate mainly around the job I'm hired to do for her. She told me she loved the excellent care I provided and made multiple future bookings with me. I guess my question is, how can I stop obessing over her and is there any chance I can make a friendship out of this/how?
smackie9 Posted September 2, 2019 Posted September 2, 2019 Wanting a friendship for what? so you can try and manipulate the situation into something romantic? no way! She hired you to do a job, that's it. If you get too friendly she's gonna pickup on it and get creeped out. 1
Author ThisisIt606 Posted September 2, 2019 Author Posted September 2, 2019 I don't want anything romantic, because I can't actually picture or desire anything intimate. I friendship as in a platonic, hey you're a really cool person and I want to be friends type of way.
rightondude Posted September 2, 2019 Posted September 2, 2019 (thought better of comparing this to a scene I saw once)
Author ThisisIt606 Posted September 2, 2019 Author Posted September 2, 2019 (thought better of comparing this to a scene I saw once) what scene?
MetallicHue Posted September 2, 2019 Posted September 2, 2019 If you have an intense crush better to just not be friends at all than being friends. You are only going to get hurt.
justwhoiam Posted September 9, 2019 Posted September 9, 2019 Let me start by saying that I have always dated men. However every so often a woman comes along that I REALLY admire for her success, talent, and I find to be attractive etc. I have started to develop an intense crush on a woman whom I recently started pet sitting for. Just by reading that and the rest you wrote, I'm already having creep vibes. I don't want anything romantic, because I can't actually picture or desire anything intimate. I friendship as in a platonic, hey you're a really cool person and I want to be friends type of way. Whom are you trying to fool? Not me. Intense crush to me means there's sexual attraction. Casual friendship is not possible. Do you understand that? What if you two are all alone on the couch and she's taking you into her confidence, thinking you might be a nice friend, while you are sort of drooling all over her? Keep it professional.
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