Starswillshine Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 I don’t know if you should tell her or not. So often these wives are comfortable and they overlook a lot to maintain their lifestyle. Though, BS often get pigeon holed into this stereotype, I do not know many people who overlook their WS's behavior to maintain lifestyle. No, many are manipulated to believe that nothing is going on. Many, instead, chose to trust their spouse fully and completely versus being suspicious that he might be cheating. If they find out he/she is cheating, many are fighting for their marriage because they love them fully and completely. So frustrating when someone comes here and suggest it is to maintain lifestyle. I was a SAHM for nearly 20 years when I found out my WH was cheating. Sure, I could have found out many years before, but I chose to trust him. And support him. I found out about it and at first I was willing to try to save our marriage. Not because of money, even though I had no way to support myself nor our kids, but because I loved him and I didn't want to break my family up. Ultimately, I could not do it, and I divorced him. But some women can move past it and repair their family. They aren't in it for lifestyle. The lifestyle is very seldom worth the pain. 1
Hrgirl915 Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 Though, BS often get pigeon holed into this stereotype, I do not know many people who overlook their WS's behavior to maintain lifestyle. No, many are manipulated to believe that nothing is going on. Many, instead, chose to trust their spouse fully and completely versus being suspicious that he might be cheating. If they find out he/she is cheating, many are fighting for their marriage because they love them fully and completely. So frustrating when someone comes here and suggest it is to maintain lifestyle. I was a SAHM for nearly 20 years when I found out my WH was cheating. Sure, I could have found out many years before, but I chose to trust him. And support him. I found out about it and at first I was willing to try to save our marriage. Not because of money, even though I had no way to support myself nor our kids, but because I loved him and I didn't want to break my family up. Ultimately, I could not do it, and I divorced him. But some women can move past it and repair their family. They aren't in it for lifestyle. The lifestyle is very seldom worth the pain. I am very sorry. Certainly not here to offend anyone. Each situation is very different and I used the word “lifestyle” too broadly and encompassing. I hope that through all of this you have found true happiness. 1
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