freckles3131 Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 If you were dating your ex g.f. and after 3 months said, "I thought I would feel more, and it just isn't happening" Do you ever at any point in your life see yourself being able to ever fall back in love with that person. Or with men is it..."Once I make my mind up, close that chapter...it's done...forever"
NTB Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 If you were dating your ex g.f. and after 3 months said, "I thought I would feel more, and it just isn't happening" Do you ever at any point in your life see yourself being able to ever fall back in love with that person. Or with men is it..."Once I make my mind up, close that chapter...it's done...forever" why get back with an x? x's are crazy....... well maybe just mine...... but if i gave it another go and felt nothing then i can pretty much say there isn't going to be a third try
the_dude007 Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 Guys think logically, and rarely go on feelings. So perhaps he thinks it is too hard to get back together. Also depends on who broke up with who....that would add a lot more detail into what he is thinking. The "I thought I would feel more" is a classic girl line, he must have heard that from someone in his past. Just my two cents. My guess is he's done with it...
Author freckles3131 Posted September 28, 2005 Author Posted September 28, 2005 Well, we were together for 3 yrs...apart for 2. Then we started "hanging out/dating to see how it would go" (He left me back then, I have continued to have feelings) When we got together we said we could both "handle taking it slow...I.e. we both have love for one another, care about one another..but alot of time has passed...so let's just "see" He recently was up for a job interview and will prob. get it...far distance from me...so I figured it was time to lay it on the line(how I felt REALLY and see if he was in the same place) He said, "I love you, care for you etc...But am not feeling it as much as I had thought I would by now" (could be he isn't feeling it strong enough for us to do the LDR thing and is nipping it in the bud now...BUT...he doesn;'t know for SURE if he is moving) He said, "I don't know if I will have deeper feelings in a few months or not, but I don't want to take a chance of hurting you, if I don't.....I can't give you all the love you need or don't feel as strongly as you do. I care about you...etc..." He is coming off of a relationship in which he got cheated on/burnt for the first time in his life...so I KNEW his walls would be up...but he said, "I don't think that's the issue...I feel "safe" with you and if there was anyone Icould "go there emotionally with it would be you..." and it isn't happening, so it leads me to believe we "aren't meant to be" (all his words) I think if a guy actually wanted to give it a try(not seeing anyone else either) after a 3 yr. relationship....and with being burnt recently, and the possible move....is it all of those factors keeping his heart out of the game...or does he just "KNOW" do guys just "know or don't know" if they love someone....and is he really not "feeling it"....we have been intimate/loving/cuddly/caressing etc...for this time..and some bonding as well...could I have just been a pleasant distraction(can guys do this with someone they have such a lenghty history with??????) or is it he is moving, wants to not be tied down etc....OR>>>>>>If he did love me deeply wouldn't he find a way to make it work?? Don't men usually lock things in the box once it's done(so why the second chance? and with so much showing of love/affection if he doesn't feel anything)
Scott S Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 If you were dating your ex g.f. and after 3 months said, "I thought I would feel more, and it just isn't happening" Do you ever at any point in your life see yourself being able to ever fall back in love with that person. Or with men is it..."Once I make my mind up, close that chapter...it's done...forever" A lot depends on the break-up. If he's the "dumper," likely it's close the chapter, move on, don't look back. If he's the "dumpee," he will may harbor fond feelings, mixed in with the hurt feelings for some time. There are some ex's whom I've wondered about, & used to wonder what I could have done differently. But I have since closed the chapters & moved on. Gina & I will have our 10th wedding anniversary next May. Need I say more? _____________________________ What if people stopped throwing rice at weddings, and threw potatoes instead?
basscatcher Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 If you were dating your ex g.f. and after 3 months said, "I thought I would feel more, and it just isn't happening" Do you ever at any point in your life see yourself being able to ever fall back in love with that person. Or with men is it..."Once I make my mind up, close that chapter...it's done...forever" I haven't went back with a ex since my HS sweetheart. I believe once its over , its over, I realize it never worked for a reason. Unless the two people have recieved relationshp counceling and have seriously worked on the issues that caused the problem it is only doomed to fall apart again... I have witnessed it over and over through others. I wouldn't take any of my x's back.. NEVER... Your done, your history, your loss..... As for my feelings, I remind myself of the hurt and suffering I endured being involved. That will eventually lesson the desire and dreams.. I can move on and leave it in the past...
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