Is my love interest romantically with ex husband? am i just validation to her?

[depcharger]

I have been work friends with a woman for 10 years

she got divorced last year and I have trying to reconnect and spend some time with her

 

she's got a kid with her ex, so i can see her involvement with him there.

I have seen her on various OLD platforms

 

she will respond to my non flirty messages like when I ask her if she has free time on weekdays or weekends to get together she will respond but nothing actually happens

 

my questions

is it possible that she's so busy with her career and her kid that she hasn't got laid in 1+ year? As far as I know he was her only partner and she was with him for 20 years

 

Does she see me as her former colleague and that's it? a case of friendszone ?

[emeraldgreen]

I think friendzone would be a step up from where you are now.

 

It doesn't sound like there's anything happening here. She might not want anything with anyone, or maybe just not with you. It's hard to know for sure, but I wouldn't assume just because she's out of something and currently not "getting any" that she wants some.

[beentheredonethat77]

I think shes simply not interested in you in the romantic sense. She wants to keep things pleasant so she'll respond, but if she really wanted to see you, youd know it -- shes on several OLD platforms so shes open to the prospect of dating, but not with you. The whole 'busy with career' / ex-husband.. its all just preventing you from facing the fact that she is not interested here. I think move on... You deserve to be in a situation where you dont have to question their interest.

[emeraldgreen]

I missed the part about OLD, so yep, it's just not happening for you. She might just want a fresh start with no history.

[preraph]

No telling if she's ever getting laid or not, but for sure you are in the friendzone or something would have happened by now. If you keep it up, you will lose her friendship.

 

Women don't all need to have sex with someone other than themself and many can go a very long time until they are actually interested in someone. Their main goal isn't sex. A lot of women only want sex with a man they're interested in. So they can often wait until that happens.

[smackie9]

She's not interested simple as that. If she is on OLD sites, more than likely she is going out on dates, but taking a break from having a relationship or she hasn't met Mr. Right yet. Since this is a personal matter, I doubt she's going divulge any information to you about it.

[Geraltt]

Once in the friend zone, it's pretty much like the event horizon of a black hole: there's no going back.

 

If you wish to stay as friends, great. But don't go into it expecting it to develop into something more meaningful.