Lotsgoingon Posted August 30, 2019 Posted August 30, 2019 I definitely think there is texting chemistry. The problem is ... it has NOTHING whatsoever to do with in-person chemistry. Nothing! Indeed texting is deliberate, hyped, overhyped performance ... with people checking and re-checking their sentences ... working so hard to be witty and funny and confident ... It's all hyped performance ... Indeed some of the best texting occurs when people are procrastinating, simply flirting ... and have no intention of following through with meeting or getting together. 1
alphamale Posted August 30, 2019 Posted August 30, 2019 I hate texting. me too, I just do it cause everyone prefers texting 1
Author DaddyDom Posted August 30, 2019 Author Posted August 30, 2019 With OLD flake outs happen from time to time. My only pet peeve is the timing. It always seems to happen day of a few hrs before. If someone changes their mind that's fine. No one should have to do anything they don't want to. But why not let the person know 1-2 days in advance or even morning of? At least that way alternate plans can be made.
Logo Posted August 30, 2019 Posted August 30, 2019 (edited) I prefer to hear the other person's voice. It tells me a lot about her. I can gauge her interest, her enthusiasm or the way she handles off the cuff questions. With text, the other person has plenty of time to think, lie, edit their message. A phone call is less filtered. I did have a couple of cases where the woman put in a lot of effort and energy into making herself appear appealing over the phone, only to be the opposite in person. These days, I follow my instincts and gut feeling. If something doesn't feel right, I try to dig deeper to find out what's going on. If I get vague answers or she dodges a question or two, red flags go up and I move on. I used to text before I joined OLD. That was with normal people, in real life. With OLD you just never know. It can turn out to be a waste of your time if you don't take the necessary precautions to gauge the other person using whatever method works best for you. But relying on text only is not a good idea in my opinion. Example: One woman seemed okay over text. When I spoke with her on the phone, it was a disaster. She was negative and complained about everything that was going on in her life. Edited August 30, 2019 by Logo
Logo Posted August 30, 2019 Posted August 30, 2019 With OLD flake outs happen from time to time. My only pet peeve is the timing. It always seems to happen day of a few hrs before. If someone changes their mind that's fine. No one should have to do anything they don't want to. But why not let the person know 1-2 days in advance or even morning of? At least that way alternate plans can be made. Because they are selfish, don't care and they don't have to face the embarrassment of doing it face to face.
Maggiemay1 Posted August 30, 2019 Posted August 30, 2019 With OLD flake outs happen from time to time. My only pet peeve is the timing. It always seems to happen day of a few hrs before. If someone changes their mind that's fine. No one should have to do anything they don't want to. But why not let the person know 1-2 days in advance or even morning of? At least that way alternate plans can be made. It’s online and there is is no obligation. But I can understand your frustration since you call yourself daddydom. You are suddenly the submissive one which drives you mad right?
Cindylee Posted August 30, 2019 Posted August 30, 2019 What sites are people willing to talk to on the phone??? Men never like talking on the phone. My turnoff is when a guy wants to have a “whole convo” about my life through text. I’m like WTH? I’m like be a man, pick up and dial my number for God’s sake. Is that that intimidating to talk?
Maggiemay1 Posted August 30, 2019 Posted August 30, 2019 What sites are people willing to talk to on the phone??? Men never like talking on the phone. My turnoff is when a guy wants to have a “whole convo” about my life through text. I’m like WTH? I’m like be a man, pick up and dial my number for God’s sake. It’s not about the site! It’s about the users that are on all of the sites lol. Men and women like to talk on the phone. Some men and women don’t. Your turn off is when they want to chat via text? Well then stop replying via text ! Simple! Why don’t you say I’d rather chat on phone. If they are not compliant or compatible , then delete!!! Why are you texting your hook up from a month ago and not calling him??
SumGuy Posted August 30, 2019 Posted August 30, 2019 With OLD flake outs happen from time to time. My only pet peeve is the timing. It always seems to happen day of a few hrs before. If someone changes their mind that's fine. No one should have to do anything they don't want to. But why not let the person know 1-2 days in advance or even morning of? At least that way alternate plans can be made. Exactly. The only true flake out I had was a no show. Luckily any place I suggest meeting is one I'd like to try or go to anyway. I don't rearrange my life for first time OLD meets. No show. No problem. Struck up a conversation with folks at the bar and they even bought me a drink for my story. Turned out to be a great night.
shydad Posted September 4, 2019 Posted September 4, 2019 Men never like talking on the phone. I think it varies from one person to another, but with that said, you do have some influence over that. I'll share an example of what got me dialing in a hurry. On day 15 I had this text exchange: Her: "So I'm sitting here thinking about..." Me: "What are you thinking about?" Her: "When I will get to hear your voice again " I could not dial the phone fast enough! That was about a year ago and the memory is still strong.
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