I met up with this guy on tinder, didn’t respond, but didn’t I unmatch me?

[dramallama]

I think he is attractive, the first time with him I was tense, mostly because my mindset was the fact that I was meeting him at his place, which we all know it’s not safe to meet at someones home on tinder.

 

 

 

 

 

The second time if there is one will be phenomenal you can count on it.

 

 

 

 

If you haven't heard from him in 3 weeks and haven't seen him in a month, I think you can safely say there isn't going to be a second time. It doesn't sound like either of you had a great time - and if he was following up asking if you hated it, that's not a good sign! Guys follow up with 'OMG that was amazing' when they want another go! They tell you it was great or that you're the sexiest creature in the world and it'll be better next time, if they want to keep you on the back burner, too.

 

 

 

If you are just looking for casual, there is an abundance of beautiful young f*ck boys out there. Find another one, this one has gone.

 

 

 

And stay safe - physically *and* emotionally. You've given this guy far too much head space.

[Cindylee]

Is there a time frame on how soon hooks up see each other? Surely they don’t see each other every week, it’s spur of the moment isn’t it? I had a FWB years ago and we never saw each other every week it was once a month sometimes/whenever he wanted it

[mortensorchid]

You two met with the intentions of it being a hookup. And it was a hookup. And... You're done. Not much else to say about that. But he didn't unmatch you and you're feeling not good about it? Have you been in contact at all since? Maybe a bit here and there but... You met for the intention of hookingup and hookup you did.

 

Move on.

[Whodatdog]

Have a little self respect and stop contacting him. It apparently wasnt that good for him, that he doesnt want to hook up anymore. Even hook ups have to have some connection to want to hook up again.

[dramallama]

Is there a time frame on how soon hooks up see each other? Surely they don’t see each other every week, it’s spur of the moment isn’t it? I had a FWB years ago and we never saw each other every week it was once a month sometimes/whenever he wanted it

 

 

I have done 2 casual things and on both occasions it was hot and heavy (frequent meets and texting) up front. One then went on to settle into a groove for over a year, the other fizzled after the initial excitement. Either way, the excitment seems lacking in your case. It's all anxiety instead.

 

 

 

If you truly believe it's 'spur of the moment', why are you creating a thread about it, and worrying about it? He'll either pop up, or he won't, by your own philosophy. In the meantime, you should be living your best life and forget about him.

[introverted1]

OP, from what you wrote, it appears you started to have intercourse, then stopped him and made no effort to please him in another way (which might have prompted him to do the same). You left.

 

 

I can't imagine why either of you would want to come back for more.

[basil67]

Is there a time frame on how soon hooks up see each other?

 

Cindy, you were tense and nervous. There's not going to be a next time.

 

Is this hookup thing what you really want? Is there a reason that you're choosing this over a relationship?

[Maggiemay1]

Is there a time frame on how soon hooks up see each other? Surely they don’t see each other every week, it’s spur of the moment isn’t it? I had a FWB years ago and we never saw each other every week it was once a month sometimes/whenever he wanted it

 

A hook up is a one off, unless the experience had some wow factor to make someone come back for more.

 

He didn’t come back for more. You are clearly not cut out for a random hook up and he knows that. He likely has girls who are.

 

You now claim to have had a fwb who saw you whenever HE wanted it. He was not a fwb. You were a hook up for him.

 

This guy is not interested in having sex with you ,accept that.

Guys do have options! It is 2019!!!

[Maddie82]

I think he is attractive, the first time with him I was tense, mostly because my mindset was the fact that I was meeting him at his place, which we all know it’s not safe to meet at someones home on tinder, 1000 things ran through my mind, but after looking at his social media profiles , he’s an okay guy so I give him the green light. The second time if there is one will be phenomenal you can count on it.

 

I honestly don't think there will be a second time. It has been over a month with no word from him so he's not looking to hook up with you again.

[stillafool]

Is there a time frame on how soon hooks up see each other? Surely they don’t see each other every week, it’s spur of the moment isn’t it? I had a FWB years ago and we never saw each other every week it was once a month sometimes/whenever he wanted it

 

After all of this advice you are still hung up and pinning over this guy. What in the world was so special about this one? It doesn't even seem that either of you had such a great time but you're still wanting him back to prove something either to him or yourself. Is it your ego that is hurt? If so, so what? We all face rejection at some point in our lives. If you just want a FWB wouldn't it be better to find one who gives you good sex?

[stillafool]

I suspect this guy is really hot

 

If this is true you know that guy has many more options.

[frus69]

This is an insane amount of obsession over a ONS.

 

Why dont you just text him and confess your love already