Dumper (me) going no contact? Chances of getting back together?

[Whoathere]

Hey y’all, I broke up with my girlfriend last Thursday (my last thread was the reason why, if you care to read). Essentially the reason was I feel she betrayed me and was not there for me like I was for her throughout the relationship.

 

When I dumped her, I explained to her that I had a difficult time getting over everything that transpired the last couple weeks. And that I lost trust for her. She understood and just said “ok” to everything I was explaining. Then texted me “no hard feelings, I think this is what’s best. At least for now. Maybe in the future it will be different” I replied “no hard feelings, we had some good times, etc”. I then went completely no contact.

 

The next day, I got a missed call from her. Did not answer. she texted me saying “I’ve come to the conclusion that I might be getting fired for what you did at the baseball game” (from last thread), but texted me that when she was with her manipulative friend “Jenny”( another reason I broke it off). Did not respond, still NC.

 

On Sunday she spent the day with our mutual friend (my brothers gf, who she picked up from my place), asked her why I wasn’t home (my car wasn’t in the driveway). Also told this friend that she’s looking for places to rent in my city (she lives 30min from me right now). I still stay NC.

 

I haven’t heard from her since. I’m starting to miss her. I still feel hurt over what she did, but I know we can work through it. She never took my worries seriously when we were together, so I feel If I break NC she won’t change. I wish she would reach out to me because although I’m the dumper, I had a good reason to do it. I lost all trust for her. I’m off work for 3 weeks (we work together), and trying to find ways to cope/not think about her.

 

When I broke up with her, in my head it was for good. Made sure my brothers gf gave her all

Her stuff back, I deleted all social media (so I won’t have to see her), etc.

 

Thoughts on what’s going through her head?

Edited August 20, 2019 by Whoathere

[Blind-Sided]

I didn't read the last thread... but you broke up for a reason... stick to your intentions, and stay no contact.

[schlumpy]

I'll assume you had a good reason.

 

You didn't indicate any remorse on her part. She didn't seem all that bothered by the breakup. Until that changes I don't think you can even think of taking her back.

 

It's not a matter of pride it's a matter of her showing through her actions if there is something there to build a relationship on.

 

In my opinion of course.

[Gaeta]

What your feeling is normal, it's part of the 5 phases of mourning the end of a relationship. Even bad relationships are hard to end but it needs to be done. Stay away. She will not change.

 

 

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/inside-out/201309/the-5-stages-grieving-the-end-relationship

[olivetree]

Just read your other threads.

 

I think the breakup is for the best.

Your ex just wants to fit in and be where the fun is - she wasn't loyal at all.

Not gf material!

 

I know it sucks and you don't want to feel lonely.

Try to get out and do things during your three weeks off so you're not just sitting around missing her.

 

Good luck!

[Flame Aura]

Just read your previous threads... like something from a school playground.. I think it's for the best you stay single and mature a bit.

[Fekenaws]

A very low chance you'll get back together. No Contact is to help you reclaim your life and your independence. If you believe it's a miracle potion you will delay your own healing for as long as it takes the illusion to shatter for you.

 

You will hear from her again in the future, not to get back together, but just her own selfish reasons. When this time comes, be better than we were. Stay No Contact.

[smackie9]

You were disrespected by both of them....kicking them to the curb was the best thing you could have done.