matty145 Posted August 19, 2019 Posted August 19, 2019 So I hooked up with this girl on spring break and had pretty good sex with her. And kept in touch a bit since then, and this weekend we just found out we are going to be at the same music festival. Should I just straight up ask her if she wants to hook up again? Or should I just ask her to meet up when we both get there and go from there?
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 19, 2019 Posted August 19, 2019 I think it's best to just play it cool and let things unfold organically.
crispytoast Posted August 19, 2019 Posted August 19, 2019 (edited) Ask to meet up and then take it from there. Eat a little bit of dose together (I cannot stress this enough, make sure it's from someone you trust) and maybe drink some mimosas. Have fun exploring the festival together. If the chemistry is there, sexual energy between the two of you will build through your adventures. Edited August 19, 2019 by crispytoast
smackie9 Posted August 19, 2019 Posted August 19, 2019 She's probably going to be there with a group of friends....so yer chances are going to be slim.
crispytoast Posted August 19, 2019 Posted August 19, 2019 Yeah actually in hindsight I wouldn't even ask to meet up. If you are chatting about the festival, perhaps mention that you hope to run into each other. Have fun at the festival and don't be focused on trying to find her. If you run into each other and the chemistry is there, you will know. @smackie - friends isn't necessarily a problem. Especially if OP is rolling around with friends too and the groups meld.
Author matty145 Posted August 20, 2019 Author Posted August 20, 2019 Yeah actually in hindsight I wouldn't even ask to meet up. If you are chatting about the festival, perhaps mention that you hope to run into each other. Have fun at the festival and don't be focused on trying to find her. If you run into each other and the chemistry is there, you will know. @smackie - friends isn't necessarily a problem. Especially if OP is rolling around with friends too and the groups meld. Why shouldn't I ask? I've got nothing to lose I figure
ExpatInItaly Posted August 20, 2019 Posted August 20, 2019 I would not just come out and ask if she wants to hook up again. Too crass. You could however ask if she wants to catch up over a drink together at the festival, and then take it from there. If there’s sexual chemistry and mutual interest, the rest will take care of itself.
Reznar Posted August 20, 2019 Posted August 20, 2019 Play it cool. It's been quite some time. You almost never want to just come out and ask a girl stuff like that unless you are fwb or anything like that. Even though she had sex with you, not a good idea. Just play it cool, talk to her, tease her etc, you already attracted her once, you can do it again. It's always better if "it just happened" than "he asked me and we had sex".
Fekenaws Posted August 20, 2019 Posted August 20, 2019 Dude just go chill with her. If you get her juices flowing she will take you whether you want it or not. Don't overthink this, she's into you. Relax.
Author matty145 Posted August 26, 2019 Author Posted August 26, 2019 Well it happened. We ended up booking up. Only issue is I’m starting to develop feelings towards her and I don’t think she is reciprocating. What should I do?
smackie9 Posted August 26, 2019 Posted August 26, 2019 Ask her out on a date? If she turns you down, there isn't a whole lot you can do about it. It is what it is.
preraph Posted August 26, 2019 Posted August 26, 2019 Yeah. Jeez. If you LIKE her, ask her on a freaking date! No girl wants to just be considered someone to just hook up with. 2
Author matty145 Posted August 26, 2019 Author Posted August 26, 2019 Nah I’ve tried in the past and she didn’t really go for it. I think she just sees me as a FWB. She didn’t even want to cuddle after sex.
smackie9 Posted August 26, 2019 Posted August 26, 2019 Nah I’ve tried in the past and she didn’t really go for it. I think she just sees me as a FWB. She didn’t even want to cuddle after sex. dude just walk away.
The Outlaw Posted August 26, 2019 Posted August 26, 2019 You can try asking her out, but if you think she only sees you as a FWB, that's probably all it's going to be. If she's down with a date, cool. If not, just walk away. 1
Maggiemay1 Posted August 27, 2019 Posted August 27, 2019 Why shouldn't I ask? I've got nothing to lose I figure You like this girl?? It doesn’t sound like you do? Nothing to lose? Why create a thread about her then? If you want a hook up , go for it! If she says no , then yes you have nothing to lose. If you want more from this girl, what is to lose is this girl! Decide whether you want an easy hook up or whether you want more from her. Your approach will make all the difference.
stillafool Posted August 27, 2019 Posted August 27, 2019 It's clear to me she's only interested in sex. If she's turned down dates with you before and is only interested in sex then you should walk away if you are developing feelings.
Author matty145 Posted August 27, 2019 Author Posted August 27, 2019 (edited) I mean I never really asked her straight up but I have a strong feeling she’d say no. I guess I was optimistic that maybe over time she’d develop feelings. Because we have a ton in common, we both love music festivals and literally can talk about it for hours, and when I was hanging out with her and her friend I made them laugh a lot and we had a great time. And our sexual chemistry is like 10/10. This is literally the girl of my dreams. I’m talking like stop my in my steps, can’t get her out of my head. Is it realistic to settle for someone else or is it possible to actually get the girl of your dreams? Edited August 27, 2019 by matty145
HiCrunchy Posted August 27, 2019 Posted August 27, 2019 I mean I never really asked her straight up but I have a strong feeling she’d say no. I guess I was optimistic that maybe over time she’d develop feelings. Because we have a ton in common, we both love music festivals and literally can talk about it for hours, and when I was hanging out with her and her friend I made them laugh a lot and we had a great time. And our sexual chemistry is like 10/10. This is literally the girl of my dreams. I’m talking like stop my in my steps, can’t get her out of my head. Is it realistic to settle for someone else or is it possible to actually get the girl of your dreams? You dont know till u ask! I'd ask.
smackie9 Posted August 27, 2019 Posted August 27, 2019 Matty maybe it's a Mexican stand off...maybe both of you are pretending just hooking up is OK. Her not cuddling is her way of not getting attached because she thinks you feel nothing more about her. Just tell her you really like her and ask if she ever thought about making this more than a hookup. Just put it out there.
Author matty145 Posted August 27, 2019 Author Posted August 27, 2019 (edited) Matty maybe it's a Mexican stand off...maybe both of you are pretending just hooking up is OK. Her not cuddling is her way of not getting attached because she thinks you feel nothing more about her. Just tell her you really like her and ask if she ever thought about making this more than a hookup. Just put it out there. Yea maybe. What I don't wanna do is scare her off by pushing for something serious if there is potential for her to develop feelings by just being FWBs. Idk maybe I'm completely wrong. Edited August 27, 2019 by matty145
smackie9 Posted August 28, 2019 Posted August 28, 2019 This is what I always tell people...if you do scare them off, they never were and never will be interested in anything more with you. Women/girls pretty much already have their mind made up if you are BF material or not from the get go. I doubt she is undecided or will "develop feelings" later.
preraph Posted August 28, 2019 Posted August 28, 2019 If you're ever going to date her, you need to ask her on a date. Why would you grow on her if you're not even showing her the respect of dating her and asking her out properly??? Women have expectations and usually want to be treated right and taken out and stuff. 1
The Outlaw Posted August 28, 2019 Posted August 28, 2019 Yea maybe. What I don't wanna do is scare her off by pushing for something serious if there is potential for her to develop feelings by just being FWBs. Idk maybe I'm completely wrong. Yes, but you'll never know unless you try. Again, should she say yes, cool. If not, no big deal. There are other girls out there. 1
Maggiemay1 Posted August 28, 2019 Posted August 28, 2019 If you ask for a hook up and she wants a relationship you will scare her off. If she also wants a hook up , that’s all you will get. Hook ups don’t turn into relationships. If you ask her out on a date and all she wants is a hook up , you will get nothing. If you ask her out on a date and she ultimately wants a relationship, then you get to go on a date with potential. What are you going to do?? 1
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