Is he interested

[Vdle]

Hello. Thank you for stopping by.

 

I was hanging out with this guy a couple of time and we've made out. He was going through my phone to see which dating app I was using. But last week he said he doesn't like me. I told him I was hurt and decided not to see him anymore. After not talking to him a few days he invited me to a house party. I said yes but now I'm not sure if I should go. I will be meeting his friends for the first time ever. I don't see the point of meeting his friends if he is not interested in me. We both don't need to keep each other as friends and he doesnt need a date for this event. My question is, should I take his words as face value? He doesnt like me so I need to move on? Or is there a chance for us so I should go? Sorry for the long message and thanks for stopping by. Hope to hear from you guys soon!

Edited August 19, 2019 by Vdle

[smackie9]

How insulting...you can't be serious about going. The guy is a dbag. Cut him off go no contact.

[Vdle]

Thank you for your advice. I guess it is very obvious to outsiders but not to me since there are feelings involved.

[Itsjustme2000]

I don't know what he's doing. But that's quite disrespectful and if you're looking for a relationship respect is a must. I definitely wouldn't continue with this guy

[Blind-Sided]

wellllll..........................

 

 

 

 

Here's the other side of this bad situation. If it's a party with a group of people you don't know... then use that to meet new people. (but heck with the guy who invited you)

[Vdle]

Thanks everyone for your advice! I told him I'm not going. He seems to be ok with it. It makes me wonder if I'm bad at making out or something!

[kendahke]

Hello. Thank you for stopping by.

 

I was hanging out with this guy a couple of time

we've made out.

He was going through my phone

last week he said he doesn't like me.

I told him I was hurt and decided not to see him anymore.

After not talking to him a few days he invited me to a house party.

I said yes

 

Ugh! Why? He doesn't like you, he's more than likely told his friends he doesn't like you--you want to go get humiliated by his friends who think they're doing him a favor by razzing you?

 

If someone went through my phone and then told me they didn't like me anymore, they'd have gone on block and I'd have gone on with my life. I don't want to be around any male who doesn't like me--why? What's the point?

 

If he said that out of nervousness, I'd still launch him because he's not a fully mature male. He's still a boy who doesn't know what he wants and I ain't got time for that.

 

You haven't even invested enough in him long enough to be this perplexed about his immature behavior, so the real question is: why do you need the company of someone who's told you they don't like you? Is this an "I want what I can't have" thing?

[Vdle]

Hmm I'm not sure why some people can be so brutal. If I don't like someone and they like me, I wouldn't makeout with them, that is totally leading someone on.

[kendahke]

Thank you for your advice. I guess it is very obvious to outsiders but not to me since there are feelings involved.

 

Those feelings are clearly not mutual--no guy who felt anything positive towards you would tell you that he doesn't like you unless the truth is he's cruel in his nature or he's trying to offload you.

[dispatch3d]

lol funny women on this side of friendzone immediately defriend and move on, where if its a guy that likes a girl all the sudden its ok to remain friends as long as the guy doesn't get too clingy.

 

FWIW I agree with the others, I'd just tell him your only interested in dating, and to have fun at the party.

[smackie9]

You have only hung out with this guy a couple of times...you don't really know him....for safety sake do not go to the party.

[Vdle]

I am not going. My time is too precious for him or his friends.