Big Aus Posted August 19, 2019 Posted August 19, 2019 Last thing I want to be is a "player". Unfortunately meeting people online is extremely hit & miss. The lady you think you're a perfect match for, says you're not, or simply ignore you. Ladies finally reply after weeks, when you've given up hope, etc. Or online relationships you think are dong gangbusters, simply fizzle out. I have been chatting "productively" to 3 ladies. Probability and history, says NONE will amount to anything, but I have to try. As I write this, it seems one has ghosted me, so down to 2. What's the appropriate way to behave? Even if I could choose between the two, asking one to stay on hold whilst I chase the other seems rather rude. At what point should I become monogamous? After an actual first date?
PegNosePete Posted August 19, 2019 Posted August 19, 2019 Definitely after an actual first date. And probably after a 2nd and 3rd too. Don't chat online. Meet up sooner rather than later. You're looking for dates not pen pals, right? 1
Curiousroxy86 Posted August 19, 2019 Posted August 19, 2019 Focus when you want to focus. Don’t just focus because you feel you need to focus Focus when there is a girl you actually like more than the other AND is showing they like you back and shows that interest consistently Good luck 2
Author Big Aus Posted August 20, 2019 Author Posted August 20, 2019 Don't chat online. Meet up sooner rather than later. You're looking for dates not pen pals, right? Definitely agree with that
Rayce Posted August 20, 2019 Posted August 20, 2019 Definitely after an actual first date. And probably after a 2nd and 3rd too. Don't chat online. Meet up sooner rather than later. You're looking for dates not pen pals, right? I totally agree with this. I really bugs me when a guy can't get around to asking me out and just wants to try and keep that chat going. It's like they have no confidence and are afraid to meet up in person. Get to the 1st date/meetup asap. That is what the ultimate goal is right? To meet in person and hopefully their is a spark which leads to a beginning. 1
kendahke Posted August 20, 2019 Posted August 20, 2019 At what point should I become monogamous? After an actual first date? No--after having had a number of conversations to find out what their long term goals are in life and if you and she can fit into each other's plans without undue conflict. You have to have an unmistakable mutual agreement that you both willingly want to move forward in the same direction with one another. That is not a mind-reading event--that's an adult to adult conversation. If you're too afraid to have an adult conversation with another adult, you shouldn't be dating. Even if I could choose between the two, asking one to stay on hold whilst I chase the other seems rather rude. Then don't stoop that low. She has every right to get on with her life. It's not like these are the only two women left on the face of the earth.
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