in keeping the last name

[mila]

my bf's ex-wife still keeps his last name. they've been divorced for many years now (they have a child together) and she has since gotten remarried. but i really find this odd... is it normal? or am i overreacting?

[fusangite]

my bf's ex-wife still keeps his last name. they've been divorced for many years now (they have a child together) and she has since gotten remarried. but i really find this odd... is it normal? or am i overreacting?

She wants to have the same surname as her child. That's pretty damned normal -- a kid might feel rejected if her/his mom chose to abandon their shared name in favour of her new husband's.

[Art_Critic]

Normal .. She must've kept the name so her child had the same name..

Makes for a better adjusted child

 

No it doesn't mean anything .. By the way it also is her name.. She doesn't have to give it back..

 

She will ALWAY'S have the last name.. even if someone gets rid of it they still are legally known as the other person as well..They can longer sign legal documents but once a name alway's a name

[Teag]

Its pretty normal, you shouldn't worry. My mom still has my dad's last name & they've been divorsed for 18 years now. She is now in a happy relationship w/ my stepdad for about 15yrs, they just never got married & it doesn't bother him that she keeps my dads last name.

[mila]

oh okay.. thanks guys for clearing that out... i was just a little confused as i don't really know anybody in my family (both sides) who's ever been divorced (knock on woods!!!).....

[Tankgirl]

Hi Mila,

 

I have been divorced (happily) for 7 years. I have an 8 year old daughter and just like someone above said...I kept my husbands last name so that my daughter and I would have the same. One day when I remarry I will change it, but for now it is important that my daughter is not confused