portableversion Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 not jerking off leads to prostate cancer. Gotta clean out yer pipes!
hoppy28 Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 then i'll never have prostate cancer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! now i know why i feel tired all the time!!!!!!!!!! :p on a serious note..............ive been single for two years. to be honest the first year was me recovering from a lost love. i just simply wasnt ready to even date another woman. in the 2nd year i felt like i was "on top" of the world. i could do what i wanted, when i wanted, where and with whom i wanted. i didnt have to answer to anybody, please anybody else. i didnt have to worry about my "lover" in any aspect. i was FREE!!!!! you bet i get lonely.......you bet i get horny......... these are feelings you will have time to time. lots of people are trapped in relationships they shouldnt be in. marriage often ends in divorce.......atliest thats what the polls say. i work in a job that i love.......on the other hand the stories i hear everyother day can almost make a grown man cry. imagine becoming recently disabled........ex: car wreck leaves you paralyzed. your wife of 20+ years decides she cant handle the life she will now face and she bails. just like that. gone from your life.........leaving you alone to fend for yourself. it happens.............to much. i see it all the time. my great single life was disrupted shortly by a woman. she came out of no where...........strung me along for alittle while and then bailed. i was fooled. she wasnt the woman i thought she was. i realized this in alittle over a month and a half. imagine coming to this same realization 20+years later. im just about back to where i was before her. I AM A CATCH................keep smiling bro. keep faith. most importantly keep yourself happy. its all about you. pm me if you want to talk.
RecordProducer Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 I think RP is on course with the idea of taking the pressure off. I'm not sure about her undateable women concept tho You're probaly right and it sounds rather alternative, but let me explain the logic: I was insecure as all teenagers (I am 30 y.o. now). Then I was (un)lucky enough to be mostly surrounded by people I considered stupid, low class, and mean. I felt superior. I no longer had the need to feel insecure in front of them as I felt I was better than them. Insecurity comes from the fear that you will say or do something wrong. I completely didn't care about their opinion and what impression I would leave on them. With time I also developed this mindset - if you think I am stupid then you're stupid without a doubt. It was a learned behavior that brought me confidence when I started dealing with people I admired and cared about. Please no one take this personally as I obviously enjoy the company of LS-ers ; hence my numerous posts. My advice would be to practise gentlemanly physical contact with female relatives and platonic female friends. By gentlemanly, I mean definitely non-creepy, non-intrusive and non-sexual. Gently touching the elbow to attract attention, or walking arm in arm. A gentle hug as a greeting and a goodbye. You will break a confidence barrier and after a while all this will start to be natural. This is good advice.
Author fusangite Posted September 30, 2005 Author Posted September 30, 2005 My advice would be to practise gentlemanly physical contact with female relatives and platonic female friends. By gentlemanly, I mean definitely non-creepy, non-intrusive and non-sexual. Gently touching the elbow to attract attention, or walking arm in arm. A gentle hug as a greeting and a goodbye. You will break a confidence barrier and after a while all this will start to be natural.I want to express how thankful I am for your advice. This is advice that makes sense and is do-able. Aside from the hugging thing, I have zero experience with the rest of this stuff so it is a great idea for me to develop this area of expertise. I think I will actually talk to some of my female friends about this idea to get them on board for this project. Your advice has really made a difference; even if it doesn't resolve my problem of long-term singleness, I really like having a finite, achievable project to work on.
Author fusangite Posted September 30, 2005 Author Posted September 30, 2005 It looks like you have some anxiety with the physical part of meeting women. Take things SLOW. There is no rush. If you are being rushed, SHE IS THE WRONG WOMAN for you. So get to know her. As you gain her trust, BE HONEST about your fears with her.Well, I suppose this can't possibly turn her off more than what I would normally do. You may also wish to try some counseling about your anxiety.I have heaps of counselling under my belt. I understand my anxiety much better now. It just hasn't gone away.
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 I want to express how thankful I am for your advice. This is advice that makes sense and is do-able. My pleasure! Have fun trying this out and tell us how it works
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