twatwa123 Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 Is it just me or has anyone noticed how the women on there cannot hold a convo. Of the few replies to messages I receive, I ask a question,I get an answer, I get a couple of replies back, then nothing. So frustrating.
Highndry Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 I remember a long time ago when I set up a few online dating accounts, and POF was free and so I did it. It seemed like the "ghetto" of online dating sites.
Wanderlust2018 Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 So a few things... This isn’t exclusive to POF. I’ve previously experienced the same on Match, Bumble, et al. In the past, I’ve always looked for a common thread or interest, used tasteful humor, and genuinely put some actual effort into it. Despite this, one still gets the two or three word replies; this signals no effort on their part in my opinion. My philosophy is, if a woman engages you yet is unwilling to put effort into it at the start, why should I think or believe it will be any better or different later on? I know in my case, I’m fit, attractive, have a great career as an executive, graduate degree, an income very well north of six figures, and a pretty busy lifestyle. That said, I’m no time management expert, but If I can find and take the time to craft a decent message of interest to someone, I’d expect some reciprocity if they’re genuinely interested. Bottom line, no matter how cute and/or appealing they seem online, if they don’t show effort, I’ve always been on to the next. Lastly, it’s a numbers game my friend. Not sure where you are geographically, but in general, women get tons of messages versus men. I’ve heard many a time how it’s overwhelming for them.
Author twatwa123 Posted August 11, 2019 Author Posted August 11, 2019 Most messages I sent will relate to something they’ve put on their profile An example Me: hi looks like we have some things in common, do you support a decent football (soccer) team POF: it looks like we do, I support Chelsea though haha Me: ahhh okay, well I’m a man united fan, looks like they’re in for a thrashing today Pof: hopefully not Me: are you going to watch the game? That’s the end of the convo. The one person who has actually conversed properly with me, I had a (joke of a) on off 7 month relationship with. Turns out she’s happy to talk to anyone because she’s lonely and feels like she needs to be dating someone.
Author twatwa123 Posted August 11, 2019 Author Posted August 11, 2019 I am from the UK in a medium sized town near the city of Brighton on the south coast. Safe to say all the good looking ones live miles away 1
Wanderlust2018 Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 Most messages I sent will relate to something they’ve put on their profile An example Me: hi looks like we have some things in common, do you support a decent football (soccer) team POF: it looks like we do, I support Chelsea though haha Me: ahhh okay, well I’m a man united fan, looks like they’re in for a thrashing today Pof: hopefully not Me: are you going to watch the game? That’s the end of the convo. The one person who has actually conversed properly with me, I had a (joke of a) on off 7 month relationship with. Turns out she’s happy to talk to anyone because she’s lonely and feels like she needs to be dating someone. This isn’t uncommon in the OLD realm. Some initial rapport is built and then voila...silence. It seems like you’re taking the right approach; just keep after it and try not to get discouraged.
basil67 Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 I think that OLD is like the used car lot of dating. For both genders. You're looking for a car and you notice the same car still there available after 3 weeks. It may even be advertised on more than one site. Why is it still available? Because there's something wrong with it or they've over estimated the value. If you want someone with good social skills, meet them in a social environment. 2
gaius Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 Me: hi looks like we have some things in common, do you support a decent football (soccer) team POF: it looks like we do, I support Chelsea though haha Me: ahhh okay, well I’m a man united fan, looks like they’re in for a thrashing today Pof: hopefully not Me: are you going to watch the game? That’s the end of the convo. One of the most boring conversations I've ever heard. No flirting, no banter, no teasing, and worst of all, not one interesting topic. She probably didn't reply because she fell asleep. You've gotta up your conversation game if you want to keep women interested in talking to you. 2
Author twatwa123 Posted August 11, 2019 Author Posted August 11, 2019 One of the most boring conversations I've ever heard. No flirting, no banter, no teasing, and worst of all, not one interesting topic. She probably didn't reply because she fell asleep. You've gotta up your conversation game if you want to keep women interested in talking to you. I’m not going to flirt or banter or tease with anyone from the very off. Come off it. That’d get ignored too, anyway. She listed football as her interest.
basil67 Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 I’m not going to flirt or banter or tease with anyone from the very off. Come off it. That’d get ignored too, anyway. She listed football as her interest. Banter among fans is a common way to have a conversation even among your mates. If you can't banter about football, why bother listing it at all? Alternately, you could use the knowledge as a springboard to get to know more about her on a personal level. I think it's fair to say that she would have walked away from this conversation equally non-plussed.
MsJayne Posted August 12, 2019 Posted August 12, 2019 You need to take into account the fact that a lot of men treat date sites like their own personal smorgasbord of women. I know so many women, myself included, who have been treated badly by men from dates sites, ie; they commence dating you, it reaches the point where you think it's turning into something, then you find out you're not the only person they're seeing, and then you get dismissed. It's very hurtful and damaging, and the result is that the women reciprocate by treating the men as if they're that guy - because they so often are. Aside from that, lot's of people have difficulty conversing with strangers, it's just a lack of confidence. Online dating is absolute rubbish. I find it leaves me feeling empty and disillusioned, generally bad for the soul.
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