what are your +'s and -'s in living with your sign. other?

[NiCoLe20]

just curious to see some of your responses...

 

what do you and dont you like about living together? where do you escape when things hit the fan? what do you two do together to have fun? what does your sign. other do that you hate? what do you miss when you were living without him/her?

 

discuss!!!

[whichwayisup]

what do you and dont you like about living together? where do you escape when things hit the fan? what do you two do together to have fun? what does your sign. other do that you hate? what do you miss when you were living without him/her?

 

Well, I adore my husband. He's loving and giving, funny and smart. We love shooting pool, watching hockey, having sex! I love that he rubs and tickles my back everynight before we go to sleep, even when he's tired. I love that I wake up every day and he's there beside me. Makes me smile.

 

Then there are those times I look at him and think to myself, O MY GOD, this is the rest of my f**k'n life. I hate him right now and he's on my nerves! Sometimes his nose makes this noise, he leaves his apple cores on the side of the couch, he fiddles with the TV clicker and it's annoying as hell when watching TV, he get grumpy and gets pissy with me which irks me and sets me off sometimes...Those are the times I head upstairs into the computer room or watch TV in bed.

 

Most of the time things are on even keel. We spend time together, we live together but we don't feel the need to 'entertain' eachother. Life is life and most of the time it's good and happy - Sometimes it's not and those days we just do our own thing.

 

It's important when living with your spouse is for each person to have separate things to do. Some nights he'll go out with the guys, some nights I go out with the girls. Or I'll hang out with the neighbours. I never feel bad about leaving him behind as he's a big boy and can take of himself. I love having evenings on my own, I get to do what I want, when I want and he's not here to invade my space.

 

It's healthier that way. If we spend 24/7 together I'd seriously wanna smack him and kill him!!

[Shana]

What I like. He is happy, easy going, supportive and he has his own life as I do mine. He finds fun in many outdoor things as I do. Sometimes we do these things together but not too often. We go on vacations alot, nice dinner, lounge around and watch the games, cook, laugh and just generally have a good time in eachothers presence.

 

What I don't like is that since I moved in he has never picked up the vaccume, not once. Does not really clean at all. When I am tired and have a million other things to do, I think about things - the little things that would be nice if he helped out.

 

But, we never fight, we are easy as it comes. I don't know of anything that he does not like about me in the household but have communicated if there are issues, please do tell me.

 

I am very happy with cohabitation.

[laRubiaBonita]

Pro- Sex anytime i want it

Con- i do not always want it the same time he does

 

Pro- i am usually not lonely

Con- i do not have time by myself when i need t al the time.

 

pro- i get to wake up with him

con- he also wakes me up in the middle of the night snoring, getting up to pee, the stench of his farts

 

pro- we are both really good cooks

con- he eats like a horse

 

i really do like living with my bf, although i doo miss watching my Chic shows on tv....i never get tv control. i enjoy taking care of someone else, doing something for someone i love because i want to....not that i have to.

[RecordProducer]

Nice posts, girls. When I lived with my ex-BF at age 19-20 for a year and a half, I like dthat he was just there and I didn't feel lonely. I didn't like it that I felt that he was invading my time as in if he wanted to watch some boring movie and I wanted to something more exciting, I had to just do nothing. He was messy and not helped around the chores so that bothered me too. I had to cook and clean for himself too. I didn't do his laundry though, his mom did cuz we were officially not living together and he only had his tooth brush at my place.

 

When I lived with my ex-husband, the good part was that I loved him and wanted to be around him, but everything else sucked. We always had lots of obligations around 3 children (he had a daughter from his first marriage also) and he would always rush me to do teh next thing that needed to be done. He was never really relaxed. Plus he would put his pajamas on at 10 pm si I felt like living with a 70-year old man. Before that he would take care of the children (together with me). He was always tired (he didn't really have a reason for that because he worked for 6 hours only - office job, he was the boss). I basically felt stuck with him.

 

But I do think that living with someone you're in love with and is compatible with you can be the most wonderful thing. You get to do things together, visit friends as a couple, snuggle and cuddle, make love, hold hands while watching TV, talk to them, eat, fall asleep and wake up together. As long as each partner has their own life arranged (work, hobbies, various activities, friends, etc.) nobody invade's the other one's privacy.

[quankanne]

what do you and dont you like about living together? pro – having an instant playmate, having someone there who understands why you alternately love/hate your family, having someone to do fun stuff with

 

con – having to put up with his pissy moods or bad habit of not bathing daily, listening to him gripe at the TV or tell me something when he can see that I'm deeply involved with reading whatever book I'm into at the moment, cooking crap that I don't care for, but expects ME to eat it because he won't. Oh, and his complaints that I snore so loudly that he can't sleep. Excuse me??! *I* snore too loud? That noise coming from his nasal passage could bring a house down even when it's NOT the heavy-duty snoring!

 

where do you escape when things hit the fan? now that we bought a house, it's easier to go to another room to get away. Before that, we had a one bedroom apartment, so one of us would have to leave the place until we cooled down. Didn't happen very often, though, thank goodness

 

what do you two do together to have fun? hit the local pulga to look at the junk that other people are selling. I love that he's always up for adventure whenever we have to go somewhere, like taking a new route to see what's on the way, or just because we can. Otherwise, it's typical stupid stuff: "Hey, make pig faces ... no really .... *breaks into giggles*" He's highly amused that it doesn't take much to get me laughing

 

what does your sig. other do that you hate? refuses to bathe on a daily basis (just because you don't do anything, it doesn't mean you don't get a certain body funk), then expects me to hug him when he crawls into bed all stinky. Doesn't understand that to be physically intimate with someone doesn't necessarily mean having to hump them all the time. Bugging me while I'm trying to read. Eating/drinking foods I've set aside for other use, then not understanding why he should have replaced them, like the emergency 7-Up for whenever one of us gets sick.

 

what do you miss when you're without him? the sense of companionship and intimacy that comes with being with someone for so long. I think we're evenly yoked, though sometimes I honestly wonder how we make it work as well as it does.

[whichwayisup]

i really do like living with my bf, although i doo miss watching my Chic shows on tv....i never get tv control. i enjoy taking care of someone else, doing something for someone i love because i want to....not that i have to.

 

Get another TV set. Trust me, it's great!

[RecordProducer]

Quankanne, your post is sooo cute and funny!!

[quankanne]

I had you at "make pig faces," didn't I? :p

 

BTW --- I really loved the photo you had posted as your avatar a couple of days ago, the sideways "looking adoringly at camera with big eyes" look. I've got to see if I can get my niece's little girl to do that in front of the camera for me, it's just a wonderful pose. You're so pretty to begin with, but that was such a great shot of you, RP!

[RecordProducer]

I had you at "make pig faces," didn't I? :p

No, actually it was the whole post that amused me and the tone of not taking things seriously but rather with a dose of humor.

BTW --- I really loved the photo you had posted as your avatar a couple of days ago, the sideways "looking adoringly at camera with big eyes" look. I've got to see if I can get my niece's little girl to do that in front of the camera for me, it's just a wonderful pose. You're so pretty to begin with, but that was such a great shot of you, RP!

 

Ooohhhh, thank you so much. You're a profesional photographer, right?

I actually got a comment from a man from LS that he didn't really like that picture.

 

Men!

Don't like us when we're innocent. Then complain about sluts!

[quankanne]

Men! Don't like us when we're innocent. Then complain about sluts!

 

at which point we break out into squeals and start hollering, "chauvinistic pig!!!"

 

bah, forget about what the other poster said, I thought it was a wonderful shot, very casual, but very intimate, you know? Not a photographer (I, who own a dumb-dumb camera to help me get my job done, lol) but greatly appreciative of when it's done really well.