ZA Dater Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 Anyone had one of these? This is probably the last resort for me or the start of a slippery slope depending on your point of view. I am forced to consider this idea because it seems "normal" dating doesn't work for me. Of course the value proposition is very low with this which is why it grates me so much but the reality is if ladies do this there is clearly market so in some respects my assertions about the complete fruitlessness of dating for some are correct. So my question are : How much do you check out the person you have an arrangement with? : How do you reconcile the business side of it (assume for the purposes of this its a dinner date arrangement). Cons Are there really any significant ones, consider my complete lack of dating success and something contrived like this does grate me but its preferable to wasting endless hours trying to find people I like and more time trying to make those people like me. I have done some due diligence into this and the picking are if anything barely any better than what I match with on Tinder but this might be better for my business centric/interview style.
nospam99 Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 Not me, but I had an online buddy who was into them. He had become worn out by the frustration of only meeting women who wanted his money to feed their children. He finally decided that if he was going to be constantly tapped for money that he wanted the best sex he could get in return. So he found an arrangement web site that matched up sugar daddys/mamas with sugar babies. He claimed he was VERY happy with the 'quality' of the women he was 'making arrangements' with and even shared some photos with me. (If those were photos of the actually women, they were both very hot and, at 20s-30s, young.) FWIW, it struck me as a more 'long-term' prostitution deal. But you'll also find men who characterize marriage as long-term prostitution with less satisfactory levels of 'service' and commitment from the 'wife'. 1
alphamale Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 what exactly are you asking? what do you mean by "arrangement"
schlumpy Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 what exactly are you asking? what do you mean by "arrangement" He wants the girl friend experience - Pay for Play.
elaine567 Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 assume for the purposes of this its a dinner date arrangement He wants a girl to show off for the evening when he attends his posh dinners, instead of always showing up alone... Afterwards I am not sure...
alphamale Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 He wants the girl friend experience - Pay for Play. that's cool, nothing wrong with that. either way you go a man is going to pay. 2
Author ZA Dater Posted August 11, 2019 Author Posted August 11, 2019 He wants a girl to show off for the evening when he attends his posh dinners. That's all I really want. Just come to the recognition some guys can get this normally others just need to contrive to achieve it.
alphamale Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 That's all I really want. Just come to the recognition some guys can get this normally others just need to contrive to achieve it. so what? there is nothing wrong with that
Author ZA Dater Posted August 11, 2019 Author Posted August 11, 2019 I think it is called escort service? Not really these are typically ladies looking to somehow improve their lot in life, I could say something to the effect of at least they are honest about this versus the ones I seem to find on dating sites. Perhaps unsurprisingly I haven't yet found anyone that vaguely works on the economics versus looks scale. Look this isn't ideal and isn't really what I want but last week there was a tragedy fairly close to home and it made me realise that life is finite and one should try and experience as much as possible. I suppose if I could find attractive dates I would not need to consider this idea to begin with.
chillii Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 (edited) Or take it further and look for a bride. Many of them are ridiculously beautiful so at least you get a little doll in the the deal. And she'll want to try and work at you two , which is more than women you've been meeting want to do. And , l'm pretty sure l saw somewhere arranged type marriage even have a higher success rate than the typical marriage anyway. lf not that serious then sure , why not , find some discrete way of meeting someone to take to dinners and out and about a little , whatever, why not. At this stage at least you'll get some experience and maybe even have some good times. PS, Actually , you could even run that idea on a date site , don't put a picture in to start for obvious discreteness just describing yourself will do at that stage. When l was on one way back when, l saw women looking for and talking about all kinds of arrangements , they'd write it right there on their profile. Some it was just some dinners , some something casual, or a friend, or just someone to talk too and of course married women looking for an affair. l remember one was looking for an experienced, wait for it, master, whatever that entails , ahh !!! Edited August 11, 2019 by chillii
Foxhall Posted August 11, 2019 Posted August 11, 2019 Mr Za Dater, before you try this option, the solution to your dating troubles could be very simple. Mexicans buddy, try meeting a Mexican woman.
alphamale Posted August 12, 2019 Posted August 12, 2019 Mr Za Dater, before you try this option, the solution to your dating troubles could be very simple. Mexicans buddy, try meeting a Mexican woman. there are no Mexicans in south Africa Foxhall 1
Author ZA Dater Posted August 12, 2019 Author Posted August 12, 2019 (edited) the solution to your dating troubles could be very simple. I wont reply to this post too directly, suffice to say a friend of mine needed to go to Thailand to find any sort of dating experience at all, he finds it completely impossible in SA. The inherent problem with an arrangement is finding a suitable person, which is easier than dating to some degree but the economics of it are another matter altogether, because the value proposition is very low. Edited August 12, 2019 by ZA Dater
smackie9 Posted August 12, 2019 Posted August 12, 2019 I say talk to someone who uses an escort service for advice.
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