Should I forgive my girlfriend for this?

[Whoathere]

Sorry for how long this is!! Promise itÂ’s not boring tho!!!!

 

Just some background, I am a lesbian. I have been best friends with this girl I work with (letS call her Jenny) for 2 years. Jenny is bisexual and has had a thing for me for a while, but I dont see her in that way. She has tried making a move a few times, but i rejected her every time. Our friendship was never affected by this..

 

This new girl on the job came in January. Me and her started getting close end of April. I started crushing on her and confided in Jenny about my feelings. Jenny had nothing but negative things to say about her..that shesboring, Stuck up, etc (which she does about every girl I show interest in tbh). Every time we go out as a shift, new girl tries talking to Jenny, Jenny is outright rude and does not give her the time of day. Completely ignores her always.

 

So me and this new girl started getting closer and having feelings for each other, and have decided to start dating. So now, Jenny decides she wants to befriend new girl. What does she message her? “Hey Im Going to a horse show on the weekend, wanna come with?” My girl goes yeah sounds fun...Jenny: “want me to invite Jordan (me)? I don’t think she likes horses to be honest though”. That alone was shady as hell to me, along with other things shes been saying to my girl, not inviting me, blowing up my girls phone non stop trying to act all nice. Me and my girl got into a right over this and I asked her to stop talking to Jenny. And For that reason, I distanced myself from

Her because I know her intentions are shady.

 

What does Jenny do next? She decides shes confused as to why Im distancing myself. Asks my girl why. My girl doesn’t want to get involved so she brushes it off. But she still texts Jenny, despite me asking her not to..she doesnt want tension because we work together.

 

Im suddenly curious as to why Jenny is all up my girls ass all of a sudden. So I look through my girls phone to read their convos last night (bad I know), and I find that the convo has been deleted. Nothing there. Which I know is horse**** because Jenny blows up her phone nonstop..

 

I ask my girl why she deleted the messages. She goes “because she was saying bad things about you and I didntwant you to read it and start a problem”. Apparently she called me psychotic, that I objectify women, that Im a player, that my girl shouldn’t be with me. I lost my damn mind on my gf first of all, because shes acting friendly with someone she barely knows whos saying all these things about me. If she didn’t want to confront her thats fine, but have the decency to tell me what’s going on.

 

Anyways, this is where the mess happens. When I found this out (yesterday), it just so happens to be the same day as a shift baseball game. So Im very drunk. I show up at the game...I see Jenny in the bleachers..legit walk right up to her and confront her. Asked her to come have a chat outside, called her a p*ssy because she wouldnt, every other name I could think of. Yes I was a drunk mess and it was embarrassing. I dont regret confronting her, just doing it in that manner.

 

Everyone goes to the bar after, I go home because getting more drunk was ill advised at that point. My girl goes to the bar too. At this point Im blowing up my girls phone calling her names, and texted Jenny calling her a p*ssy and nobody wants her ass. Who does My girl Uber with? Jenny and this other girl on the shift (she came back to my place , just took an Uber with them because it was cheaper). During the Uber ride her and Jenny are

Showing each other my messages. Which I know were out of line..but how are you still talking to this hater jealous girl with shady intentions,

Whos done nothing but cause problems between us?

 

Just feel like I embarrassed myself last night and don’t wanna face the shift tomorrow. Me and Jenny were like Batman and robin since day one, for two years, but I strongly believe she’s causing problems because she has feelings for me that I never reciprocated, and this is the first girlfriend I’ve had since getting to know Jenny. She is the type to sit back and make me look crazy (which is what happened last night..probably my fault)

 

Any advice would be great guys

[Kelliousme]

It does sound like a mess. If I were you I'd ditch them both. If Jenny truly loved you and cared for you as a "best" friend she would not be doing these things. She's asking your girlfriend out behind your back/talking poorly about you to her etc etc. Sorry but that's not friend material. You need to get another job if you can, remove her from your life and move on. Find a REAL friend.

 

Now your girlfriend.. sorry but why is she still texting your friend when you told her not to? There is literally NO EXCUSE. Any excuse she makes up is unacceptable. It's not like Jenny was her friend to begin with. She met her through you. If anything.. she should be afraid of Jenny taking you away/wanting you to stay away from Jenny. If one day your girlfriend cheats on you with Jenny, I wouldn't be surprised at all.

 

The last time one of my best friends (female) asked my boyfriend to hang out without me (saying because I was busy) they ended up having feelings for each other. I ditched them BOTH and at this point of my life I'm so glad I did what I did. One of the best things I've done in my life.

[smackie9]

My advice...keep work and your private life separate...and that includes dating coworkers...it's bad juujuu. Ditch the both of them pleeeeese pleeese pleeese ditch them. There is nothing you can do to control the situation. They are both of free will and will do as they please. You cannot stop your GF from talking to Jenny and you can't stop the BS from before during or after. It might be a good idea to look for another place to work too while you are at it.

[preraph]

I'd dump both of them completely. You can't trust either of them. Both of them betrayed you and both of them seem to like to stir up drama. Block them and only be professional with them at work and nothing more.