Super89Rex Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 I am curious as to the reasoning behind those who leave a relationship. Howcome after the dumpee initiated N.C, it takes a long time (weeks and months) for the dumpee to realize things and come back? I don't understand how it can take someone so long to realize how special someone is.. Like in my case, she left me for another guy (see other thread) and if anything it will take her probably months to realize things if she ever does. I am just curious as to why it takes so long? Anyone have any idea or thoughts on this?
pioneer Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 In my experience, they either come back because you put pressure on them to do so, by making them feel guilty etc.. or because the new relationship isn’t working out, it takes so long because both of these take time. Both these reasons you should not get back with someone because of. Never try and make someone stay, that doesn’t want to, you are the person that will end up hurt in the long run.
Jilly10340 Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 I've never known someone to stay in a relationship because they feel guilty. If they come back, they have to want, otherwise why would they? I mean, if you don't want to be with someone, then you won't, no matter how much you try to convince them. And if they do for some reason come back, they won't stay long...
wreck Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 One awful thing i find about reading all these posts is this fact - we all have totally different situations but in each of your posts i know we are all heartbreaking and feeling so much pain, it makes me angry that we all have to go through this. From my situation withthis my ex loves me to death but isn't in love with me, wants to be friends but realises that i can't, got annoyed because i was so upset and has now broken contact, has said she needs to be on her own totally doesn't want anyone else, then tells me there might be hope for us that she wants hope and wants to fall in love with me again but doesn't know if she can! WHY does it have to be so difficult and pain ful for us all :'''( I wish this feeling would end, but my love for her is so strong and i almost don't want it too , i don't want to get to that stage where i'm over her but i wantto be ok on my own and if there isn't any hope then i definatley need too :'''(
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