LeadDergible Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 If I go out, I rarely see women turning their heads to look at me, and I might as well be invisible. Eye contact is obvious, and I very rarely even notice myself being glanced at, at all. And frankly, a lot of women will just ignore me if I do say “hi”, so I’ve gotten used to it. I’ll notice more glances from women if I’m with another guy, but if I’m on my own..nothing. I’m from LA, California. I’ve seen some women turning every guy’s head she walks by. Are women that obvious when they check out a guy? If I don’t see so much is a glance, is it safe to assume they won’t be disappointed if I don’t talk to them (cause it seems like an indication of indifference or an indication of disinterest)?
smackie9 Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 A super hot guy will turn ladies heads yes....take the fire safety guy that comes around to re-inspect the fire extinguishers at my work....the ladies are checkin him out and can't stop talking about him. It's like kids in a candy store...ladies in the office running up to the window to have a peak. Us in the back have a full view....I'm the lucky one I get to deal with him personally. I have a feeling he's a volunteer fireman.
Author LeadDergible Posted August 5, 2019 Author Posted August 5, 2019 (edited) I’ve noticed a general trend of better looking, more educated women being a lot friendlier and easier to engage: when I was in the military, the female officers would constantly banter with me...but, the enlisted women were often obnoxious and rude. And when I was working in some dead-end retail job, the female managers would often flirt, but the low-ranking women seemed nonplussed by me. A super hot guy will turn ladies heads yes....take the fire safety guy that comes around to re-inspect the fire extinguishers at my work....the ladies are checkin him out and can't stop talking about him. It's like kids in a candy store...ladies in the office running up to the window to have a peak. Us in the back have a full view....I'm the lucky one I get to deal with him personally. I have a feeling he's a volunteer fireman. What should I make of women often ignoring me when I do talk to them, even when I’m just trying to be friendly? I don’t think I’m a loser who’s not worth responding to. I don’t expect women to line up, trying to get a look at me, but I seems like I’m having the opposite effect. Edited August 5, 2019 by LeadDergible
ExpatInItaly Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 What should I make of women often ignoring me when I do talk to them, even when I’m just trying to be friendly? I don’t think I’m a loser who’s not worth responding to. I don’t expect women to line up, trying to get a look at me, but I seems like I’m having the opposite effect. That depends. How and where are you approaching women? 1
Gretchen12 Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 I'm probably pretty obvious when I see firemen at the supermarket. But I don't think I'm the only one. I'm in LA too and I think it's rude to ignore someone who said hi. It's just rude.
PRW Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 It is individual, not gender. Some men make it obvious, some are more discreet. Some women make it obvious, some are more discreet. I've seen women checking a man out and it is just as obvious as when a man does it. 2
alphamale Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 I’m from LA, California. I'm in LA too... I feel for both of you, how unfortunate
Shining One Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 In general, I'd say women occupy more of both extremes than men. You have women who check out guys without anyone being able to tell. You also have women who check out guys and use their hands in the process.
kendahke Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 I am when I am by myself and I see someone delectable jogging by...
kendahke Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 I feel for both of you, how unfortunate don't knock it til you've lived there
Jacobv1 Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 No, women see men differently, imo. How a man looks at a woman is different from a woman looking at a man. Men think more of sex appeal, so they're very obvouis in looking, women have curves men don't stand out like that. Women do think of sex appeal, but subconsciously she's mostly looking for who can provide like hunter gather, though instead of a spear ect hunting, it's having nice clothes, hair, car ect.
basil67 Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 I'm in LA too and I think it's rude to ignore someone who said hi. It's just rude. To be fair, my daughter's BFF gets hit on numerous times day. Yes, she's very attractive. These guys don't know her from a bar of soap but feel it's OK to intrude into whatever she's doing with 'conversation' simply because she's attractive. Now, I've never had this experience, but I can imagine that a woman could get tired of swatting flies off 5 times a day and not want to interact.
alphamale Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 don't knock it til you've lived there I lived in Pasadena for a year and a half
chillii Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 (edited) Some are incredibly obvious, some and more sneaky and careful about it, you probably won't even catch it.Some look a lot ,always on the look out, some not so much, or hardly at all, guys are the same. And yeah , they won't look at you as much if your alone, l think it's a not as safe thing and they could end up being hassled. They seem to feel more comfortable about it if your with someone in my experience. Edited August 5, 2019 by chillii
alphamale Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 in general, women are more covert and men are more overt when checking out someone hot. that's my experience I always catch women looking at me and when I turn to look at them they turn away, once in a while the women will lock eyes with me for a few seconds...these are the girls that really like me
preraph Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 To be fair, my daughter's BFF gets hit on numerous times day. Yes, she's very attractive. These guys don't know her from a bar of soap but feel it's OK to intrude into whatever she's doing with 'conversation' simply because she's attractive. Now, I've never had this experience, but I can imagine that a woman could get tired of swatting flies off 5 times a day and not want to interact. Yes, definitely, and the few men who are that extremely hot also get tired of it, though it comes in handy when all they want is sex. I don't think most women are obvious about checking a man out. I think most will do it on the sly, from afar. Why? Because if they keep their eyes on every guy passing by, say, in a club, a lot of them they aren't attracted to are going to mistake even this basic look at interest. So they make sure they're attracted first before showing interest unless they are drunk or just unusually forward.
alphamale Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 So they make sure they're attracted first before showing interest unless they are drunk or just unusually forward. or they are horny
OnlyHonesty Posted August 6, 2019 Posted August 6, 2019 Women tend to make good use of their peripheral vision when checking men out. It's also much better than men's too. However, Ive had quite a few occasions where women have eyed me up from toe to head and direct eye contact.
smackie9 Posted August 6, 2019 Posted August 6, 2019 I don't think this is a matter of "checking someone out"....this is big city mentality. In big cities, people keep to themselves when it comes to strangers. In a small town, everyone knows everyone and interact when they run into strangers. So it sucks to be you living in a big city. 1
kendahke Posted August 6, 2019 Posted August 6, 2019 I lived in Pasadena for a year and a half One new year's day taught me to never live in Pasadena... I used to love skating around the Rose Bowl and golf course and going to Stats every December for decorations.
Gretchen12 Posted August 6, 2019 Posted August 6, 2019 To be fair, my daughter's BFF gets hit on numerous times day. Yes, she's very attractive. These guys don't know her from a bar of soap but feel it's OK to intrude into whatever she's doing with 'conversation' simply because she's attractive. Now, I've never had this experience, but I can imagine that a woman could get tired of swatting flies off 5 times a day and not want to interact. I disagree on this one, basil67. I think women who get hit on often, actually become experts at quickly turning down men in a friendly classy way. How you carry yourself is just as important as clothing and physical attractiveness. The ones that ignore are too young and scared or just never learned social graces. In a public place, other people are watching how you handle the situation.
chillii Posted August 6, 2019 Posted August 6, 2019 (edited) Funny thing came to mind reading this one. l went in to buy some food and there was someone really cute we could feel each other cut the air with a knife type sitch. Well, l grab my stuff and walk out ,crossing the road and l hear a little - hey, look back, it's her, she's got something in her hand l'd left on the counter. Guess what it was, this sausage type thing in batter, we both cringed with cheeky grins as she hands it too me. Of all the people in there, 15 or so , she's raced out to hand me my ahhh, sausage. lt was kind of a moment haha. l suppose if l was single l could've , well, we won't go there, but she looked a bit disappointed when l didn't. ps, l could just imagine what was going through her mind when she raced out with this thing, like hmmmm, this is gonna be awkward. Edited August 6, 2019 by chillii 1
thefooloftheyear Posted August 6, 2019 Posted August 6, 2019 They are more overt, in my experience anyway... For one, they can usually get away with it...I have had women touch/grab me, yell/whistle out of a car, say some things that I wouldn't ever dare say to a woman.....These things would put a typical guy in handcuffs or bloodied on the streetcorner.. Ive never done it, just because its not in my personality to do so...But I have seen guys over the years hit on women...It has been diminished...I remember as a kid in the 70's and 80s where guys would whistle, holler, and say crude things to women....But those days are pretty much over...Its rare now for any guy to say anything complimentary to women on the street for fear of the consequences.. TFY
Kellens Posted August 6, 2019 Posted August 6, 2019 I beg to differ @ TFY. I live in NYC and the catcalling and whistling hasn't gotten any better. I don't walk down certain blocks because I know that I will be harassed. I'm attractive, not beautiful, but I still get bothered at 39 years old. It started when I was 13.. men have no shame. I am on the petite side and walking by 15 construction guys leering at you and making gross comments can be alarming and scary if there is no one else around. Since the OP is from another large city, perhaps the women are like me, used to being harassed and will ignore any male who tries to talk to her while walking down the street. If the OP is trying to talk to women in social situations and they're ignoring him, then that is something else. Perhaps his approach isn't great.
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