Nativeson1525 Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 Hello all! This is my first post and i was hoping to get some good advise. Ill do my best with the post, but i feel like there is so much to say, but sometimes I’m not good with words. So here it goes! My wife and I have been together for 12 yrs. married for 6. We are both in our mid 30’s. She has a very successful career and i am a diesel tech. When we first met in our early 20’s through some friends, i was a really heavy drinker and some drug abuse. Ive struggled with both for years at the beginning, but she was always there and stuck by me through some really hard times. (Seizure,rehab,etc.)i got a 2nd DUI around when we first me also.(07) it was def. the most difficult time of my life, having no other support from family (mother was alcoholic and addict as well) while living with my mother. As the years went on, the drinking pretty much stayed under control, and I haven’t used any drugs for about 5 yrs. now. Throughout the years I’ve also struggled with depression, anxiety, and bouncing from job to job. I currently take an anti-depressant that I’ve been on for about 3 months now.
Beendaredonedat Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 Is there a second part to your Opening Post, NativeSon?
Turning point Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 I don't see where in your post you find indications of any cheating? I will at least say this: If your wife is not co-dependent and without alcohol or drug issues of her own, it would not be unusual that she leaves at a time where you seem to be on the road to a more stable life. This does not require that she be involved with any other man. These years of supporting you through all this needless addiction take it's toll. She very legitimately may be ready to put herself first and live a life that is not all about you and your issues. Do not make your stability all about her or her choices. You've learned to stay clean - now learn to do it because it's the right way to live. If she has had enough, respect that - be grateful and let her go.
usa1ah Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 I would suggest finding a good individual counselor and work on the issues you have. You have thing to work through still. As for your wife cheating, it’s a possibility. Some successful women who have husbands that are not at their same level look for companionship that can relate to them on the same or higher level. It would not be the first time a wife has cheated under this type of situation. Also drug use can make you paranoid about things. Have a friend that hasn’t used for years like you but he gets going that his wife is cheating on him with no proof. All in his head.
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