bcfsweetie Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 Ok, this is my first time on the this website and am completely happy I found it. I have a problem and happy to hear anyone's opinion on how to handle it.]Here goes. I have met a guy, we've "known" each other for years, just never really were acquainted until about 2 months ago. I situation happened and we bumped into each other. He's been dating a girl for about 3 years now and everyone knows. But, he got my phone number the day we bumped into each other and wanted to call. Of course, being as interested as I have been for years I gave. He called, we've talked for hours on end, hung out several times and he tells me he is severly unhappy with the girl he is dating. He'll come to the house and blow her off, he'll call time after time. Yet, there is just something keeping him hanging on. He says he doesn't want to hurt her. Do I confront the problem or do I just get him out of my life? HELP!
Copingsaw Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 Don't be "the other woman". He may be genuine in his confusion or he may just be looking for something on the side. Your clearly interested so I would confront the problem. I would talk to him and tell him something to the effect that you don't feel comfortable with how close you two have become given that he has a girlfriend. You will be his friend but can't be a surrogate girlfriend for him. I wouldn't ask him to dump her but nothing wrong with suggesting that you might be interested in a relationship if he did. You must be ready to severely curtail all the one-on-one time if he decides to stay with her ... which is the most likely outcome.
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