disneyfan90 Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 (edited) I've always been told that when dating, sense of humor is one of the most important things. And I definitely agree. Recently, I went on two dates with a guy and the first thing I noticed about him is that he is absolutely hilarious. Our sense of humor matched up so well I was nearly on the floor laughing. I left the date just feeling happier and more lighthearted about life in general, because that's how this guy was. He appeared to be very carefree and I loved that about him. Our conversation flowed so easily too, and I didn't really want to leave because we were having so much fun. I'll even say that before going on this date, I was probably a little bit emotionally unavailable...I was still trying to get over another guy I had fallen hard for, but who did not reciprocate my feelings. However, after going on this date I had nearly forgotten about the other guy. Maybe it's because I just felt happier, I don't know. However, I don't really know if I felt physical attraction. I didn't feel any urge to hug or kiss him...but then again, it's only been two dates. Is it possible that this attraction could develop in the future? Physically, he isn't my usual type but I'm trying to look past this. Edit: Typo, the title is supposed to say "important." Edited August 2, 2019 by disneyfan90
mark clemson Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 Not sure what a true dating/relationship expert would say. It's one important thing for many people. If it's pretty important to you, then it is to you. I respond to it as well. I suspect some folks don't, though. Doubt it is the MOST important thing; I mean he has a job and car, right?
Versacehottie Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 If you left the date feeling good, lighthearted and happy, I think you owe it to yourself and this guy to go on another. You don't have anything to lose. I think sense of humor is hugely important. Also is being attracted to someone though. IMO, you shouldn't cut it off just yet, sometimes people see the attractiveness of another person once they spend more time with them, often in situations like yours. Additionally, if you are emotionally closed off right now (or were those first two dates), I'd guess that played a part into not finding him attractive. A known stat that applies to women is that often they need a handful of dates to appreciate the guy that becomes their partner and they end up deeply in love with. I wish I could link a stat but hopefully you can find without much trouble if you look. Good luck 1
rightondude Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 Hey Jessica Rabbit said she was with Roger Rabbit because he made her laugh. I know it helps me out and helps lighten the mood when I can make a woman crack a smile or laugh, but I have found funny doesn't get you laid. Especially self-deprecating humor. It's something I've had to tone down. I fully believe some of the funniest people in the world are covering up pain and are truly miserable. I have seen it and lived it; it's a coping mechanism and if you notice, some of the funniest jokes are deep rooted in some kind of pain. Anyway back to your question, no, if you couldn't picture him ripping off your clothes at the end of date two it probably ain't gonna happen. All the funny one liners in the world aren't going to make that happen.
Flame Aura Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 No, I don't think it is the most important thing to look for. Just one of many things to look at when evaluating the whole package. Having a sense of humour but no WOW factor that makes me want to jump over the table and kiss her everywhere would mean no further dates personally.
JEG88 Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 Not necessarily. For me it's more important to be able to hold conversations that flow naturally, including comfortable silence. And yes, humor is a big part of that, but not all. I need the woman to be on my same wavelength intellectually as well. I think once that's established, it's easier to be more lighthearted and fun with normal conversations than specifically trying to be funny. Which is what I mean when I say the conversation should flow naturally, including humor, silence and intellectual topics.
beentheredonethat77 Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 for me its one of those things i notice more when its missing than when its there.. sort of like sex. I just sort of expect someone will have some sense of humor (if not funny themselves, then at least appreciative of others humor) and its quite jarring when they dont. Could still have a short-term with a serious, non funny guy if he is hot sex and great with deep intellectual conversations.. but would be very very short-term lol
chillii Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 (edited) Depends on the person , two people. Some people like a bit more depth and intensity than just chuckling all the time. Everyone has different humor , needs and ways and personalities but there's no surprises at all you lacked any desire. l thnk there's nothing un'sexier than a chick that laughs 24 7 myself, drives me barmy but eh that's me , and actually my woman too . The whole his gotta make me laugh fad is ridiculous, everyone's different. PS , mind you , we crack up sometimes, but l loveeee our intensity . Edited August 2, 2019 by chillii
schlumpy Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 Not sure it's hot but having a sense of humor can sure get you by some tough moments. Best Wishes
basil67 Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 It's not THE most important thing, but matching humour is on the list of essentials.
Lotsgoingon Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 There are people who can make us laugh ... who are not really a good fit for dating. But I think you're onto something by noticing that this guy's brand of humor fit your humor ... great humor chemistry. I think going out again is a great idea ... and this time you can see if there is anything else there between you and this guy. This guy and his humor might be a good friend ... if you can visualize that. Sounds like a lot of fun ... just follow the fun and be honest ... if the fun doesn't go any further than laughter, just be honest.
smackie9 Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 Humor is only a small segment of what you need to feel attraction.
Inflikted Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 I mean, I've never been able to date, but I often wonder about what my ideal partner would be like. I don't know that I'd say it's "the most important", but I can't really imagine being happy in a relationship with someone who I'm not on the same wavelength with, as far as sense of humor goes. Ideally, I'd like to be with someone I can have conversations and share a laugh with. If we can't make each other smile, I don't know that I'd enjoy being in that relationship very much. 1
MINAKO Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 Sharing the same sense of humour is vitally important to me. In the past, it is what differentiated for me which person I ended up going for. For example, I have a dark sense of humour and if the other person is forcing a laugh (or does not get it) or something at my random remarks or jokes, that is not something I am attracted to. On the other hand, like recently, seeing a guy throw his head back because he's actually dying from my humour and is almost having a seizure from laughing so much, yes, that is my type Because it means we think alike, and that he gets me.
Saracena Posted August 3, 2019 Posted August 3, 2019 Although by no means the most important thing, sense of humour is fairly important to me. It's much easier being with someone who's fairly light-hearted as opposed to someone who takes everything very seriously! Quite relaxing. Sharing the same sense is even better. On the other hand, someone who's constantly 'chuckling' all the time can be quite annoying. I was watching a programme recently where this man was permanently cracking these 'jokes' and giving 'hilarious' responses to serious questions (the majority of which weren't funny at all) and laughing at them all! Even his laugh sounded awful, one of those awful cackles! 1
beentheredonethat77 Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 A good sense of humor is vital to an all-round good personality ...which is certainly a big part of attraction for me... But stand-alone humor without the other aspects of a good personality (depth, intelligence, some self-awareness etc) its just a clown and thats not hot Nobody wants to date a clown.. unless you're into that type of thing;).
Foxhall Posted August 5, 2019 Posted August 5, 2019 well many women want it all really, sense of humour, security, job, money, personality, looks, good at repairs, good in bed and so on, what is the most important- ill leave that to the ladies! in terms of a sense of humour, what is funny to one woman may not be remotely funny to another I have to mention Mexicans again, had a chance meeting with two at an event last week, I have a natural rapport with them, find their warmth and sense of humour and so on amazing. could talk to them all day where as would struggle then at times in other situations.
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