bmne90 Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 So I’m (22y, F) on a vacation with some friends. My best friend is the only one who’s still single, and I happen to share a room with her. Now, every night, me and my boyfriend FaceTime each other since we’re in a long-distance relationship. However, when we video chat, I get the feeling that my best friend’s feeling a little left out, especially given that she’s the only one who’s still single. I don’t know what to do about this. Should I still continue to FaceTime with my boyfriend? Or is this her problem that she has to face? Don’t know what to do about this.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 Why do you think she is feeling left out? Has she said something to you? It might instead be related to privacy and feeling awkward being in the room while you video chat with him; or, if you're having very lengthy or late chats, it could be disruptive to her if she's trying to sleep or something. As it stands, though, I don't see any reason not to talk to your boyfriend. I am sure your bestie is a big girl and can handle herself.
Maddie82 Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 No you shouldn't stop face timing your bf because your single friend is in the room. She may be happy being single. It's not a burden on you.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 OP, I went back and skimmed your previous threads. In those, you were talking about dating (or wanting to date) women. Your gender in your profile says you are male, but in this thread you are female? Is this best friend perhaps a previous romantic interest of yours? Or did she ever have some sort of interest in you? Forgive my confusion, but figured it was worth clarifying.
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 How long are these facetime chats with your SO? Can you shorten them a bit to be more considerate? Can you schedule them when she doesn't have to watch? All relationships, including friendships need to be nurtured. After you talk to your SO, instead of turning out the light & going to sleep, spend a few minutes talking to her.
Author bmne90 Posted August 1, 2019 Author Posted August 1, 2019 OP, I went back and skimmed your previous threads. In those, you were talking about dating (or wanting to date) women. Your gender in your profile says you are male, but in this thread you are female? Is this best friend perhaps a previous romantic interest of yours? Or did she ever have some sort of interest in you? Forgive my confusion, but figured it was worth clarifying. ExpatInItaly, I am a male, but I just so happened to let a female friend of mine to post her question on here using my account. Sorry for the confusion! Hopefully that cleared everything up
smackie9 Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 ExpatInItaly, I am a male, but I just so happened to let a female friend of mine to post her question on here using my account. Sorry for the confusion! Hopefully that cleared everything up why didn't you just post "Hey I have a friend that......" 1
kendahke Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 So I’m (22y, F) on a vacation with some friends. My best friend is the only one who’s still single, and I happen to share a room with her. Now, every night, me and my boyfriend FaceTime each other since we’re in a long-distance relationship. However, when we video chat, I get the feeling that my best friend’s feeling a little left out, especially given that she’s the only one who’s still single. I don’t know what to do about this. Should I still continue to FaceTime with my boyfriend? Or is this her problem that she has to face? Don’t know what to do about this. Have you asked her if she's feeling left out because she's single or are you projecting something onto her that she's not even close to thinking? Her mind could be on something totally different. It sounds like you're assuming she's wanting to be included on your conversation, which is weird because why? How do you know that she isn't already handling what you deem to be a problem? Are you plopping down on her bed, opening up your laptop and facetiming your boyfriend right next to her? Yes, that would be rude of you when you can take the conversation out on the patio or talk when she's not there.
Flame Aura Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 You are on holiday... do you really need to facetime your boyfriend every single night? Not sure how long these chats are but of you are on holiday with people and sharing a room with one person then should be giving them a bit more attention. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 Sounds like projection to me. Being single doesn't mean feeling "left out". I enjoy it and many people do as well. For all you know, she may be thinking your SO is douche and feel sorry for you. In any case, don't do it if she is trying to sleep. And if you have a problem with her being single then deal with it. 1
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