Moos Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 Hey Ya’ll So I know people will probably think damn dude you got laid get over it? I know I’m lucky but hear me out because I think she’s placed me under some sort of spell or something... So I met this girl on a dating app and we started talking pretty much all day everyday over about 2/3 days before we met in person. We decided to meet to go get some food and see a movie. She was very attractive and I found her interesting - we seemed to get on really well and had fun together. Obviously enough that she invited me back to her place where we talked some more and did the deed. She said she thought I was smart and funny and that she thought I was really attractive. We agreed that we’d like to see each other again and get to know each other a bit more. I mean I thought I had done well right? I spent the night at her place, got up in the morning and said goodbye to her. I thought I’d have a guaranteed second date but then she just kinda vanished? Talking everyday slowed down where she would reply after hours. Then a couple of days later she didn’t reply at all? I messaged her after two days of ignoring my question to her and we spoke again for the day and briefly mentioned a second date later in the week - but not in any detail. Now she hasn’t initiated conversation for another couple of days and it’s driving me insane. I know some of you will say maybe she’s just busy but I know for a fact she’s talking to other dudes on social media as she is liking photos, commenting on them and not talking to me!!! Is this just a game? Shall I give up trying to pursue a second date? I normally would but there’s something about this girl and I can’t seem to stop thinking about her! It’s driving me insane! Why sleep with me, tell me I’m great and that she’d like to hang out and get to know each other more but then not talk to me as much like she was before we actually met?
Arieswoman Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 Moos, It makes a change for a guy to be posting about this topic but unfortunately I can't give you an answer either. Sorry x 1
Maddie82 Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 You've been talking for less than a week and only saw each other once. If she has backed off this early on and talks to other guys then she's just not interested, I'm sorry
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 You met a female player. Take the hint & walk away. She's not interested. 4
ExpatInItaly Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 Sorry, OP, but I have to agree with the others. She's just not interested in more.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 I thought according to the other thread that women should expect that all guys wait patiently for sex and not be so pushy for it....And that should be understood... Oh well.... TFY 2
smackie9 Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 I'll admit I had humped and dumped a few in my youth. 3
Normm Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 I recall a WPLG Blown Off episode just like this. The guy calls the radio station because a girl he hooked up with on a first date subsequently ghosted him. The radio station DJs get her on the phone and she's like "yeah I just go out with a guy one time to hookup and then I have no interest in seeing him again". It's not always the guys looking for the notches. In this case it was clearly a hookup site and she pointed that out. Maybe the Op should take a closer look at her profile especially where they describe what they're looking for. 1
I'veseenbetterlol Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 Some women are also only looking for sex. She prob only wanted a ONS.
OnlyHonesty Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 When you rush into sex, it can kill all of the tension early on. You said you wanted to get to know each other better, but that interest probably dissipated after the act. I don't care what anyone says, few are built to be so intimate with total strangers on the first meet. If you'd have backed of and left her wanting, it would have been a different outcome. Perhaps something to be learned from this. 1
Normm Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 When you rush into sex, it can kill all of the tension early on. Yes that interest probably dissipated after the act. Yes few are built to be so intimate with total strangers on the first meet. No. There's lots of people looking for quickies that's why there are so many hookup sites, including Craigslist which is (or was) full of ads for parking lot sex. If you'd have backed of and left her wanting, it would have been a different outcome. Maybe. Probably not. No way to know for sure. Besides, the whole idea sounds like nothing more than a game. "Leave her wanting for more, and she will be yours forever". Doubt it.
snowcones Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 Yeah this is a mysterious thing. It could be a myriad of reasons why, but only she can answer that. It sucks to be in the position you are in because you don't have answers and probably will never get any. Now you know why some people like to wait a little while before having sex to feel things out.
The Outlaw Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 If she were interested at all, she'd replied back by now. If she's talking to other guys on a dating app, move on. In a role reversal, she told you what she thought you wanted to hear, got what she wanted, and moved on to the next one. People will BS you all the time if they feel there's something in it for them.
stillafool Posted July 31, 2019 Posted July 31, 2019 If you'd have backed of and left her wanting, it would have been a different outcome. Perhaps something to be learned from this. This is doubtful because there is always a guy who wants to have sex with a willing woman. 1
mortensorchid Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 It sure is funny when the gender swap occurs with this situation. I had one of those situations myself years ago. Granted, this will not be one as similar, but I met this guy and snuck away for a weekend (I was still living at home with my parents) and we had a lost weekend. What can I say? He was there, he was willing, I jumped in. Afterward, he showed some more of himself to me and I found a person I didn't like much. He said he lied about how old he was because his birthday was last week and he's not used to telling others how old he was. Red flag 1. Then he was one of these pretentious art snobs who spoke softly and quietly and had all this insight when he didn't really. Red flag 2. We went out for breakfast the next day and he didn't pay for my food. Red flag 3. He boasted that women are never the same after they have been with him. And I said to myself "yeah, you're right. I'll call YOU guy." And I hung him out to dry and never spoke a word to him again. He called everyday for weeks until he gave up. Do you even know this woman's last name? What do you know factually about her? Probably not much. Just say "it's what it is". You got the ideal Saturday night date - you got sex, no strings attached, and now it's done. Move on. Unfortunately you liked her somewhat, but just put a notch on your belt and go forth.
Highndry Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 She didn't enjoy the sex, because if she did she'd be hitting you up again. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 She didn't enjoy the sex, because if she did she'd be hitting you up again. This is also a distinct possibility, unfortunately. 2
Author Moos Posted August 1, 2019 Author Posted August 1, 2019 This is also a distinct possibility, unfortunately. This is what I was afraid of lol. I didn’t think it was BAD. The first time is never amazing either, you have no idea what each other likes. Maybe she has too high expectations! Anyway I’m gonna call it quits and move on. Good luck to the next guy!
Maddie82 Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 This is what I was afraid of lol. I didn’t think it was BAD. The first time is never amazing either, you have no idea what each other likes. Maybe she has too high expectations! Anyway I’m gonna call it quits and move on. Good luck to the next guy! If two people are both experienced then the first time is always amazing. 1
notbroken Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 If two people are both experienced then the first time is always amazing. True. However, the 1000 time with someone you love is so much better (or the 100th after you have really learned what each other like). Going for 1st time sex so often is NOT the path to the best sex though it may seem like it at first.
Highndry Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 If two people are both experienced then the first time is always amazing. Eh, not really. When I think of every woman I've ever been with in my life, they got better with time.
smackie9 Posted August 1, 2019 Posted August 1, 2019 The first time is never amazing either, you have no idea what each other likes. The first time? oh yes it can be!....speaking from experience here. There are just some guys that really know their way around a woman's body. 1
newyorker11356 Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 The first time? oh yes it can be!....speaking from experience here. There are just some guys that really know their way around a woman's body. A few women I've been with have told me that I was by far the best person they've had sex with, and that's because I really just took my time and made things pleasurable for them. Not to mention, apparently knowing my way around a woman's body doesn't hurt
Logo Posted August 2, 2019 Posted August 2, 2019 (edited) So she used you for sex? What is this world coming to? Sorry to hear that. Better luck next time *Record Scratch* Edited August 2, 2019 by Logo 1
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