Love2015 Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Hi! Wanted to share today's date story....a weird story .. I had been talking to this guy for some time and we would meet today...I had also videoed with him so I knew he is real. I found him attractive from get go and he found me attractive too. He kept saying he wants to kiss me and I clarified I don't kiss on first dates yet he said he will make me break my rule. I said prefer not to. So we met and he was right withing 30 minutes we kissed. This date was very weird...I had parked my car and he came and picked me up to go to the park area of where we were. I was in areas of restaurants. I usually would not get into a car like this but I felt I could trust him so I did. We drove to park section which is less than. 10 minutes away. We then talked for a while and kisses. It felt good and not weird at all as if I knew him from long time ago... Just kiss nothing else....then he said let's go to have something to drink /eat so we drove back to area I had parked. While he is looking for parking he points to restaurant and says to get table for us while he looks for parking. I thought he was being gentleman not wanting me to walk for long or something. I got the table....felt awkward as he never showed up! I called anand he didn't pick up. As soon as I got table, I we to washroom so I now don't know if he came ... didn't see me and left or...he is such an ass and ghosted me ! I called goes directly to voice and he deleted his online account. So sad!
Gretchen12 Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Not so sad. So weird! I bet he'll be back online in no time. Not that you care but if you looked, you'll find he reactivates his dating profile or make a new one. OLD is hs playground. He's not going to quit it for good just because of you.
JEG88 Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Wow, that's pretty despicable. Maybe it was a weird conquest just to prove he could get you to kiss him. I would have anticipated someone of his low character to try to get into your pants at that point. Silver lining, it's better that you didn't get more involved with him.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Maybe he wasn't single and his girlfriend called him while he was on his date with you, so he vanished. 1
beentheredonethat77 Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Im so sorry:( .. That is just pathetic on his part and says nothing about you and everything about him and his lack of manners. Be so glad that he showed his true colors before you wasted one breath on him. Onwards and upwards! and its all upwards after this loser;)
stillafool Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Wow, what a jerk. He's probably done this before and will do it again. He meets girls, gets them to kiss him and depending on the kiss he ends up standing them up and disappearing. I would get off those dating sites if I were you OP.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Um, I think you're lucky this guy didn't rape you in the park! Clearly it's all he wanted and since you didn't give it up he wasn't going to pay for your dinner (probably wouldn't have even if you had). What a creep. 2
Scarlett.O'hara Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 I completely agree with CautiouslyOptimistic. I don't see this as sad as much as a blessing in disguise. Think about the extremely vulnerable position you put yourself in, getting in a car and driving to a park area with a guy you barely know. It could have ended much worse than it did. I know how easy it is to get caught up in the moment, but you can never be too careful. Remember this is a guy who made it clear that he would not accept your boundaries about kissing on the first date before you even met. He made his agenda clear. It sounds like all he wanted was sex. He didn't get it, so he dumped you off. That is how little respect he had. I know it must have felt horrible, but you were so lucky that was the worst part of your date. This was not your fault. There was something not quite right about this guy and that whole situation. For your sake, I hope you have blocked his number.
Maddie82 Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 I agree with others that you had a lucky escape here. His behavior was disgusting to just leave you in the lurch like that. If he wasn't as interested as he thought then he should've been honest with you. Instead he ran out like a jerk. Shows his immaturity. You should post his picture on dating sites warning others about him 1
Redhead14 Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 I don't kiss on first dates yet he said he will make me break my rule. I said prefer not to. This date was very weird. I usually would not get into a car like this but I felt I could trust him so I did. First of all, never, ever get into a stranger's car!!!!! "You felt like you could trust him?" -- Seriously!!!! Talking to some guy on line for a while does not equate to being able to trust him. Secondly, you said you usually don't get into a car "like this" and prior you said "you don't kiss on first dates"? And, yet you did it. You're so trusting of a stranger but the real problem is you can't trust yourself. Thirdly, a first meet from OLD is not a date. It's a short meet up in a public place for some coffee or drinks and maybe appetizers to make sure they are who they say they are, look like their pictures, etc. You meet them in your own car and you leave after them so they can't follow you. This guy got you to get into his car, be taken to an secluded place, and kiss him all within an hour or so. He was right, he could "make you break your rule". The guy more or less stood you up. Happens all the time, except he got a kiss out of it. You're lucky he didn't take it further. 1
Cersei Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Oh this guy sounds like a real as$ hat. I agree it's a blessing in disguise and you saw this side of him now, not later. He most likely blocked you, not deleted his acct. I am curious if maybe he took it as a personal challenge to get you to kiss him. Once it happened it was not challenging and fun any more. Just an ego boost for him. Going forward don't get in cars with people you don't know well ok?
alphamale Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 now that sounds like some serious ghosting. was this guy's name Casper?
smackie9 Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Maybe he wasn't single and his girlfriend called him while he was on his date with you, so he vanished. I'm gonna go with this^^....possible coincidence that he let you out while he got parking. Or he had a running bet that he could do it. That would explain his talk of kissing you on the first date.
Author Love2015 Posted July 29, 2019 Author Posted July 29, 2019 (edited) So ...number #1 I do agree should not get into stranger car...but I did judge location safe and crowded too and managed a pic to be sent to my gf of his license right before he stopped ...thought of it as as an Uber....I guess... Won't do again. Kissing on first date was nice although out of my "norm". Maybe that rule needs to go out of window after all.... don't regret it liked the kiss...just a kiss after all ..the guy is hot. But for him to leave like that is a shi##y a$# move. Who does that? He could just said no or said he is busy and then said sorry didn't feel it or changed my mind! I did ask what he felt of chemistry and said he liked me that is why I also agreed to continue for a restaurant! Uff .. Unfortunately online is like this yet we all looking for love or I am...and can't give up! But yes will be more careful ... Thank you all! Edited July 29, 2019 by Love2015
kendahke Posted July 30, 2019 Posted July 30, 2019 ..the guy is hot. So was Ted Bundy and look where the women who got into his car just because he was good looking ended up. 2
I'veseenbetterlol Posted July 30, 2019 Posted July 30, 2019 I completely agree with CautiouslyOptimistic. I don't see this as sad as much as a blessing in disguise. Think about the extremely vulnerable position you put yourself in, getting in a car and driving to a park area with a guy you barely know. It could have ended much worse than it did. I know how easy it is to get caught up in the moment, but you can never be too careful. Remember this is a guy who made it clear that he would not accept your boundaries about kissing on the first date before you even met. He made his agenda clear. It sounds like all he wanted was sex. He didn't get it, so he dumped you off. That is how little respect he had. I know it must have felt horrible, but you were so lucky that was the worst part of your date. This was not your fault. There was something not quite right about this guy and that whole situation. For your sake, I hope you have blocked his number. Agreed! When online dating, I never let the guy drive me anywhere, not even a short distance. When you reject their sexual advances and put your foot down, they cut the date short or disappear afterwards.
The Outlaw Posted July 30, 2019 Posted July 30, 2019 You didn't lose anything. He was just looking for a quick getaway since he didn't get what he wanted out of it.
alphamale Posted July 30, 2019 Posted July 30, 2019 So was Ted Bundy and look where the women who got into his car just because he was good looking ended up. good looking people can be psychos too 1
kendahke Posted July 30, 2019 Posted July 30, 2019 So was Ted Bundy and look where the women who got into his car just because he was good looking ended up. to add: But for him to leave like that is a shi##y a$# move. Who does that? Guys like him who: kept saying he wants to kiss me said he will make me break my rule. was right withing 30 minutes we kissed. came and picked me up to go to the park area of where we were. talked for a while and kisses. drove (me) back to area I had parked. says (for me) to get table for us while he looks for parking. never showed up! didn't pick up. calls goes directly to voice deleted his online account. He didn't delete his account--he blocked you. This is how the guy that you trusted after being in his presence for less than 30 minutes is. There is something broken there and it would be in your best interests and highest good to go get that fixed because this could have turned out way more unpleasantly than it has. 1
Arieswoman Posted July 30, 2019 Posted July 30, 2019 Love2015, There is something broken there and it would be in your best interests and highest good to go get that fixed because this could have turned out way more unpleasantly than it has. ^^ This is sound advice. 1
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