Savannah1990 Posted July 25, 2019 Posted July 25, 2019 (edited) Hey guys, A guy that I briefly dated after my relationship with highschoolsweetheart ended, posted a picture of me on insta with a hashtag WomanCrushWednesday. Now let me explain the situation between us. We started dating about a year ago and it lasted for about a month. It started out as fwb, but then I got feelings for him but he wasn't ready for a real relationship. So we ended it. Now he approached me to model for him, which I did. It was funny to see him again and we just chatted a bit, but no more, as I didn't really felt anything for him anymore, strangely. He posted his pictures of me on his businesspage and but a number of hashtags under it, which included wcw. I wasn't familiar with this hashtag, and looked it up. I now don't know what he means with it. It could be just a hashtag to appear more on insta. I think it's about that, because a lot of people look up for wcw so it could be a great boost. Or is he subtly trying to tell me something? He didn't put this hashtag on all his other models. Which are a lot. Edited July 25, 2019 by Savannah1990
d0nnivain Posted July 25, 2019 Posted July 25, 2019 It's social media. It's meaningless. You are beautiful & he picked you to put the tag on to increase his hit count. If he wanted you back he'd do something deliberate like call you & ask for a date. 3
schlumpy Posted July 25, 2019 Posted July 25, 2019 If he asks you out, then he is telling you something. If you hear from friends he talks about you, he is telling you something. How in the world are attributing so much meaning to a hashtag? I swear we are all heading for a world like the matrix where we all lay in little pods, fed by a flow of liquid nutrients and dreaming our dreams. Best Wishes 2
Author Savannah1990 Posted July 25, 2019 Author Posted July 25, 2019 If he asks you out, then he is telling you something. If you hear from friends he talks about you, he is telling you something. How in the world are attributing so much meaning to a hashtag? I swear we are all heading for a world like the matrix where we all lay in little pods, fed by a flow of liquid nutrients and dreaming our dreams. Best Wishes Because it's used by guys that post pictures of a girl that they have a crush on or admire. That's why. If you Google on it, you can tell the meaning of the hashtag
PRW Posted July 25, 2019 Posted July 25, 2019 Little side note: FWB almost always leads to one of the two (usually the woman) developing feelings that the other (usually the guy) doesn't want to happen,...so they all end the same way. At least you two stayed on good terms I guess. In spite of denying it, I think that you still have those feelings otherwise you would not have come here to ask what you asked. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 25, 2019 Posted July 25, 2019 If you Google on it, you can tell the meaning of the hashtag I think you missed the point. It's a #hastag not a proposal of marriage. In the grand scheme some trendy BS on social media has zero substance. 3
Author Savannah1990 Posted July 25, 2019 Author Posted July 25, 2019 Little side note: FWB almost always leads to one of the two (usually the woman) developing feelings that the other (usually the guy) doesn't want to happen,...so they all end the same way. At least you two stayed on good terms I guess. In spite of denying it, I think that you still have those feelings otherwise you would not have come here to ask what you asked. First part I agree. Second part I don't. I really felt nothing besides just some sort of friendship-kind of feeling towards him. But of course, I don't know if these feelings I had could come back if I saw him more often. I did not find him that attractive anymore though.
schlumpy Posted July 25, 2019 Posted July 25, 2019 Because it's used by guys that post pictures of a girl that they have a crush on or admire. That's why. If you Google on it, you can tell the meaning of the hashtag Thank you for clearing that up. I was unaware that the hashtag was being used in that fashion.
PRW Posted July 25, 2019 Posted July 25, 2019 Because it's used by guys that post pictures of a girl that they have a crush on or admire. That's why. If you Google on it, you can tell the meaning of the hashtagTrue, but in this case it looks like he is using it to promote his business (if I'm properly understanding what his business is). You are asking if he is trying to tell you something because deep down you are hoping the answer is "yes" and that he is telling you something "good",...because,...those feelings that developed during the FWB period are still there below the surface even though you claimed you don't feel anything any longer. 2
Author Savannah1990 Posted July 25, 2019 Author Posted July 25, 2019 True, but in this case it looks like he is using it to promote his business (if I'm properly understanding what his business is). You are asking if he is trying to tell you something because deep down you are hoping the answer is "yes" and that he is telling you something "good",...because,...those feelings that developed during the FWB period are still there below the surface even though you claimed you don't feel anything any longer. First of all: thanx for your vision and advice etc. But I don't agree fully. I just think it's surprising he's using this hashtag, and just want to gain some insight in his motives. Could really be just to promote his business. But he was also kind of flirty, nervous and giving me loads of compliments when we saw each other last time. Totally different demeanor than in our fwb-time. I'm just wondering what's behind it and if I should reply to it. For now I choose not to.
kendahke Posted July 25, 2019 Posted July 25, 2019 First of all: thanx for your vision and advice etc. But I don't agree fully. I just think it's surprising he's using this hashtag, and just want to gain some insight in his motives. Could really be just to promote his business. But he was also kind of flirty, nervous and giving me loads of compliments when we saw each other last time. Totally different demeanor than in our fwb-time. I'm just wondering what's behind it and if I should reply to it. For now I choose not to. that fact that you're not indifferent, but instead are wondering says there's a real low spark that's found some kindling. You can deny it all day long, but human nature never changes. 2
Versacehottie Posted July 25, 2019 Posted July 25, 2019 I think there is not enough information just yet. It definitely means he thinks you're attractive/hot. And he could be using how good looking you are to promote his business AND flirt with you a bit. His intentions might be dual intentions, work and romantic-ish. I think based on the past history of him only wanting fwb, you should proceed with caution about expecting much more--however, you could explore it by flirting as well or at least replying. You don't "have" to do that. Reply if you want, don't if you don't want. Set the pace and parameters of what is ok for you. If I were in your shoes, on the business part alone, I would kind of work the #wcw part just because why should he be the only one making career progress off of your beauty. Saying thanks publicly, i.e. on comments or reposting with a thank you is a way that you can self-promote as well Don't get gushy with it. It's informal and IG, there are many ways to take the compliment, flirt and self-promote all at the same time. Don't get your hopes up too much--maybe don't reply if you cannot manage that part (i could so speaking from that point of view). Good luck! 1
PRW Posted July 26, 2019 Posted July 26, 2019 Could really be just to promote his business. But he was also kind of flirty, nervous and giving me loads of compliments when we saw each other last time. Totally different demeanor than in our fwb-time. I'm just wondering what's behind it and if I should reply to it. For now I choose not to.You can't expect people to be predictable and analyzable "machines". The guy himself in his own mind could be shifting around a lot,...he may even be a bit confused himself. He could get up feeling one way one morning, the next morning feel something else, and the next morning feel something else. So there could be some truth to each possibility just depending on what side of the bed he woke up on and and what he had for dinner the night before. But for this thread all I can do is judge from what I read and it looks to me like it was mostly a promotional for his business, but that doesn't mean there couldn't be a little feeling mixed in. It doesn't have to be cleanly one or the other. So in the end, it comes down to what are you going to do about it if anything at all, and does knowing all the little details with certainty going to make a difference, or is it just a curiosity?. 1
stillafool Posted July 26, 2019 Posted July 26, 2019 Why don't you contact this guy yourself and ask him what it means? He's the only one who knows. 1
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