She asked me out?

[FlyingTiger]

So the woman I’ve been talking to for a while now (she’s been playing some games to) text me and said we should go see this movie together. It’s called ‘act of racing in the rain’

 

Was hesitant at first, is she asking me out on a date or as a friend. I agreed and said “it’s a date” movie hasn’t came out yet so I told her we’ll pick a day when the times closer.

 

My thing, she asked for us to go see it. It’s futureplanning but what do you think of the flick? Romantic or friendly?

[alphamale]

we need more info FT

[mortensorchid]

Yes, more information. On the games and whatnot leading up to it.

[FlyingTiger]

Yes, more information. On the games and whatnot leading up to it.

 

Well it’s quite obvious I like her and I’ve gotten the feeling she does too from her and the reaction of other women (giggling when we’re with eachother, etc). In the past I’ve asked her out and got the “I’m busy” excuse. So I backed away and let her come to me.

 

She started showing signs she likes me. Strong eye contact, see her staring at me in the corner of my eye. Teases and flirts with me daily and broke the touch barrier a few times. First my arms then my stomach. We have kissed. But she pulls away and goes cold. I’ve done the same and she’s tried to make me jealous. Got quite upset when I didn’t show reactions to it.

 

Leading to her asking me out. There was crazy flirting going on. Even had a friend of hers ask me what was going on between us. There was a day she did want me to look her in the eyes because “my lashes look horrible and my nails are too” I feel I handled the situation well.

 

She shows signs she likes me but when I make a move to go out, even platonically, she can’t and doesnt try and reschedule. After seeing the trailer I don’t see is being less than romantic date

[JEG88]

This sounds like high school level cat-and-mouse games. You need to stand your ground and straight up ask her if she's interested in dating you, and if she's noncommittal, you need to be ready to move on and not get sucked into her games.

[salparadise]

This sounds like high school level cat-and-mouse games. You need to stand your ground and straight up ask her if she's interested in dating you, and if she's noncommittal, you need to be ready to move on and not get sucked into her games.

 

I agree ^. The question I have is, even if you push through and begin dating, will that be the end of the game-playing? Not likely, imho. She seems immature.

[elaine567]

Sounds like it will be a big weepy of a movie, bring a box of tissues.

[Art_Critic]

the movie doesn't come out for 2-3 weeks, why wait and only take her to that movie.. seems like stalling, another game

[PRW]

Was hesitant at first, is she asking me out on a date or as a friend.

Who cares? Go to the movie with her.

[PRW]

This sounds like high school level cat-and-mouse games. You need to stand your ground and straight up ask her if she's interested in dating you, and if she's noncommittal, you need to be ready to move on and not get sucked into her games.

Yes, exactly.

Not picking on the OP, but I see this pattern constantly with men/boys of almost any age now days:

 

A man who thinks like a "boy" says: "...this girl I've been "talking" to..."

A man who thinks like a "man" says: "...this woman I've been considering..." (or something similar)

 

The boy waits to see where the "girl" will lead him, and take him where ever they are going, tell him what to do, etc. In some ways treats her like a second "mom". He is always basically asking, "Where are we going?"

 

The man develops a plan, goes on a mission, and strives to accomplish the goal,...he invites her to join him, and if she declines he moves on the the next opportunity. His attitude is: "This is where I'm going,...would you like to join me?".

[smackie9]

PRW Flying tiger is learning the ropes the hard way.......let him fall down a few times....he will eventually get it.