harnold Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 Sure, it's immature and whatnot. Sure, it's insecurity and just playing games. That being said, I'm just curious - what exactly is the underlying strategy someone is trying to do when they try to "make you jealous"? Is the underlying mentality "I'm gonna show him that I'm a catch and that I'm highly desired, so he better value this before it's off the market?" Or something along those lines I'm talking about girls who (allegedly) like you, not full-fledged relationships
PRW Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 I'm not saying how much or how little I agree with the guy in this video,...but he does a great job of answering your question.
Author harnold Posted July 21, 2019 Author Posted July 21, 2019 I'm not saying how much or how little I agree with the guy in this video,...but he does a great job of answering your question. Red Pill philosophy aside, where exactly does he address the jealousy tactic? Besides the second part of his video where he advises making a woman jealous to keep her from leaving you (I would assume the answer you were referring to is that a woman using a "jealousy tactic" is doing it to "keep you chasing"?) F-bombs every couple of words, oh boy
basil67 Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 some girls just like to emotionally assault men And according to PRW's video, some men like to do the same to women. My best advice is to break up with someone who's actions cause jealosy. The reason behind their behaviour really doesn't matter. 1
Author harnold Posted July 21, 2019 Author Posted July 21, 2019 And according to PRW's video, some men like to do the same to women. My best advice is to break up with someone who's actions cause jealosy. The reason behind their behaviour really doesn't matter. Yeah, I don't think it's a gender exclusive behavior, for the record. I dont really mean this as a relationship advice question. Moreso a curiosity as to the psychology behind it - as abstract as it may be.
Lotsgoingon Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 Some people lack goals, interests, focus ... maturity. They have nothing better to do with their time.
Shining One Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 When I was younger, my wing woman would deliberately inspire jealousy in women who were playing hard to get with me. This jealousy would drive them to "compete" harder, thus making things better for me. I doubt it would work for more mature women, but I enjoyed plenty of success with women in their twenties. Example 1: A woman I was seeing was being hard to get. I had to ask her out multiple times to get a date. I went to a few events with my wing woman and the pictures were uploaded to FaceBook. After those pictures, the woman I was seeing started agreeing to dates on the first request and even started asking me out. We also had sex, which she had been delaying. Example 2: I had arranged a date with a different woman. This date required reservations that weren't refundable and she knew that. A few hours before, she called to cancel because of a headache and apologized because she knew I had already committed to the plans. I told her not to worry about it and that I'd just take my wing woman. An hour after that, she called to say she took some medicine and felt much better. We had sex for the first time that evening.
basil67 Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 The psychology? It's a technique used by those who want to manipulate others. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 The psychology? It's a technique used by those who want to manipulate others. This. It's not complicated, OP. It's just immature and manipulative, and usually the territory of the very young or the very insecure. Don't bother with girls who you feel try to play these games.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 To get the person's attention. Lets say for example: a man is not interested in a woman. As soon as the woman finds another guy, the original guy gets all jealous. All of a sudden her value goes up in his eyes. I can say though, jealousy isn't sustainable and if the interest isn't there, jealousy won't make it last. 1
Author harnold Posted July 21, 2019 Author Posted July 21, 2019 To get the person's attention. Lets say for example: a man is not interested in a woman. As soon as the woman finds another guy' date=' the original guy gets all jealous. All of a sudden her value goes up in his eyes. I can say though, jealousy isn't sustainable and if the interest isn't there, jealousy won't make it last.[/quote'] Hm, the idea being: scarcity begets value? Makes a lot of sense So it’s basically a tool to provoke compliance , kinda
DrNo1962 Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 I'm not saying how much or how little I agree with the guy in this video,...but he does a great job of answering your question. Good video, but that's not the answer to the question. Intentionally making someone jealous is emotional abuse. It's a tactic used to gain the upper-hand because they view relationships as a power battle and they employ this tactic when they feel their power is slipping away.
schlumpy Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 It depends on what stage a relationship is in as to what meaning to ascribe to an attempt to invoke jealousy. In my experience it is the weapon of choice by women. It can be used to discover how much interest the other party has in you at the beginning of a relationship as well as how little interest they have in you at the end of a relationship. It can be used for revenge. (This is the one everyone remembers.) It can be used to get you noticed - many times negatively. It can be used as an intimate game between couples to heighten sexual interest within their relationship. It can be used to send a message of anger, triumph, a personal message of "take that you bastard", etc. It can be an icy dagger in the heart. I guess it's use is only limited by the imagination of the individual. Can anyone add something else? It's 5am and I've only had one cup of coffee. Best Wishes 1
elaine567 Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 It is a risky strategy and you need to know your "victim". A person who has a relatively high opinion of themselves and who is looking for a partner who is highly interested and "besotted" and only has eyes for them, is going to be completely turned off by attempts by the other to make them jealous by entertaining other women/men. The attitude being, "If he/she is looking for others they can go away, I am no longer interested..." A person who is insecure or desperate, is always trying hard to get someone. Seeing someone apparently slipping away into the arms of another, may make them try even harder..
schlumpy Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 It is a risky strategy and you need to know your "victim". I agree. The person must be skillful to be successful and that describes too few of us.
elaine567 Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 The other group it doesn't work well on is the people who give up easily or can't be bothered competing. "OK so you are interested in someone else, no point in me trying then. Bye" 1
Curiousroxy86 Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 in response to the original post I think a person who try to make another jealous does it because of many reasons. they get off on the reaction, to boost their own ego, to feel desirable and wanted, to show perceived “high demand/high value/scarcity”, sometimes it’s a revenge tactic, and sometimes they don’t actually care for the person and is just a disrespectful/devaluing/dgaf act. Either way it’s a boundary for me that I wouldn’t tolerate.
OatsAndHall Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 IME, it's been a tactic that's used to gauge a response. I dated a woman who went to dinner with a guy "friend" about five months into our relationship. I really didn't think much of it until she laid out the details of the evening; this was the first time she'd seen the guy since junior high, he hit her up out of the blue on Facebook, he paid for dinner and then he invited her out for drinks afterward, also something he was going to pick up the tab for. She declined drinks and came over to my place and I just kind of brushed it off. He asked her out again a few weeks later and she asked me how I felt about it. I thought she was asking to make sure I was comfortable with it. She wasn't; she was gauging my response. I told her that I wasn't comfortable with it as it certainly appeared if this guy was viewing these meetings as dates. This wasn't some long-time acquaintance looking to get together and chat; this was a dude who showed up after nearly twenty years and asked her out. She immediately got defensive and accused me of being "jealous." This really took me aback as a) she'd been out with two platonic male friends many times while we were dating and b) we'd never had any conversations or arguments about jealousy in the past. It had been a pretty laid back, fun relationship up until that point. I wasn't going to argue the point with her and told her that it was her life and she should do as she pleased. She didn't end up going out with him but she mentioned that he asked her out again about three weeks later. At that point, I told her that I didn't know what she was playing at, that I didn't care and called it off with her.
mortensorchid Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 Jealousy is a very ugly thing between people, and it's not exclusive to women either, but it's the motivation behind just about anything and everything when you think about it. Women do it to men to show them that they are desirable to others - think of a scene in Clueless when she is trying to woo the guy in her English class (sending herself flowers and candy, showing a bit of skin, etc.). And if they are dumped to go out and show him that others desire her by dressing up and having a good time. But this is not exclusive to women, men do this as well. When a buddy of mine and his wife were breaking up, he got into a mode where he was going out with a different woman every night (including me) for weeks to show her he was still desirable. Not that she knew it, but that was his motivation. 1
I'veseenbetterlol Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 Hm, the idea being: scarcity begets value? Makes a lot of sense So it’s basically a tool to provoke compliance , kinda That's what I think. As I mentioned, this isn't sustainable. The person needs to be interested in you 100% otherwise once the competition is gone they'll lose interest again.
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