CLS63AMG Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 Yes, getting the cheek means she isn't interested. Its why men are told to "always go for the kiss" after a date. Not all for hanky panky, it's to get an answer on if she likes you or not. If you get the cheek you say goodnight and never call her again, put that energy into another girl instead. Getting the cheek is a lot easier than wondering if she's into you and getting denied when you ask for another date a few days later, or worse, if you spend money on 2-3 more dates and get cheeked then!. It was all BS and a waste of time and money.
spiderowl Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 Well I'm actually glad I didn't kiss him. He is a jerk. So we met to get ice cream. He wanted me to pay, was facetiming another girl, and barely even talked to me. He wanted me to go to his apt parking lot... I agreed and missed a turn. He then started yelling me, saying I was pissing him off and couldn't follow simple instructions..not to mention, I drove 30 mins to meet him. And he couldn't even say sorry. All he said was "just come another day since you are causing confusion" Really sorry to hear it but, yes, he does sound like a jerk. At least you can be clear on that now. It is no reflection on you - it is how he is not you. You deserve better and I am sure will meet better. You have standards on how you expect a guy to treat you which is why you felt uncomfortable with his behaviour. Definitely worth paying attention to your instincts. All the best x
stillafool Posted July 21, 2019 Posted July 21, 2019 Sorry this happened to you but at least you know now to leave this guy alone. He isn't interested in you in a romantic way or he wouldn't have acted the way he did on your date. Don't meet with him again to try to remain friends or you will get severely hurt. You mentioned how good looking he is and that is probably one of the problems. If he's young and good looking he probably has access to many girls that he will explore. Try to date guys who pursue you in a respectful way, treat you with respect and follow up on what they tell you. You will find that you will be a lot happier than being another notch on the belt of a young player. 1
Twizzlestick Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 Raise my hand up as a guy and my own reaction. If a girl I really liked didn’t kiss but showed signs of interest like holding hands that absolutely wouldn’t stop me if I really liked her. You even explained why so if you did that to me I’d take it firmly as you’re interested still. The kissing would come. I’d much rather a girl kiss when she feels ready than because she wants to do the “right thing”.
d0nnivain Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 The ice cream meet should have cured you of him once & for all. Next.
elaine567 Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 Ok he was a jerk, but if you are 21ish then you need to be prepared to at least kiss a guy without all the "scared" routine and then blurting out you are a virgin. That is not great, and makes you vulnerable to all sorts of creeps.
Twizzlestick Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 Personally for me shyness is not a deal breaker. It comes under humans being individuals. Many shy folk come out of their shell once you get to know them and they can be lovely to be around or just as dominating or annoying as the rest of the world . In short it’s who you are. Yeah you might want to work on it if it’s bothering you for yourself, or stilting your conversation or holding you back from kissing well into the dating with someone when you’d like to but are afraid. That’s not good if it’s holding YOU back from doing something YOU want to do (not what the date wants). But be who you are. The right person will like you. We all have flaws. Personally loud and fast ladies (see my thread ) scare me off more than shy. That’s just me. I think you’re fine carry on. Just don’t mention the virgin bit. It’s very personal to you and no one needs know that until the time you want to bring it up, if ever. Too many weirdos around who get a kick off things like that. 1
smackie9 Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 "just come another day since you are causing confusion" This^^^^ you have him so confused. He was rejected, then there is no communication until you remind him about a date....he is mighty upset/confused with you...so he acts like a child. Maybe his ego is butt hurt because he is so used to women pawing at him. Whatever it is, he's not the one for you. Move on. 1
Author faithandfood Posted July 24, 2019 Author Posted July 24, 2019 Thanks guy. He texted me yesterday, and I didn't respond. He just called me a few minutes ago...didn't answer.
spiritedaway2003 Posted July 24, 2019 Posted July 24, 2019 Thanks guy. He texted me yesterday, and I didn't respond. He just called me a few minutes ago...didn't answer. Good for you! He sounds like a jerk the awful way he treated you on that ice-cream date.
Author faithandfood Posted July 24, 2019 Author Posted July 24, 2019 Good for you! He sounds like a jerk the awful way he treated you on that ice-cream date. I know. My friends have advised to block. 2
goldengirl11 Posted July 24, 2019 Posted July 24, 2019 (edited) Faithandfood - I totally sympathise with you and have had similar experience myself. In answer to your question - Not necessarily in my opinion, but I guess what kind of kiss?! I don't like a bloke I hardly know to be too forward e.g excessive touching, or shoving his tongue down my throat, but a gentle kiss should be fine. There's nothing wrong in suggesting to start off as friends though? Edited July 24, 2019 by goldengirl11
fromheart Posted July 26, 2019 Posted July 26, 2019 To be honest, Id be more attracted. Nowadays, someone who doesn't just want to date and bang is very rare. However, if I was not feeling a romantic attraction but only a sexual one, I would back off out of respect to the woman. But as you probably know, not all people have this simple respect. Perhaps you want your first time to be romantic and special? Then wait for a good man who will treat you well. Doesn't sound like this one has a romantic interest, if that's what you are after.
stillafool Posted July 26, 2019 Posted July 26, 2019 I know. My friends have advised to block. Your friends are right - block him!
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