Author Trail Blazer Posted July 19, 2019 Author Posted July 19, 2019 I think if I was you, I'd feel a bit uneasy too. You think she was texting you while on a date? Isn't that incredibly rude of her? Is that how she treats the men she sees? I think it best to be a bit wary of this one. She is having fun dating and you were doing the same. Now that you like her, maybe you start to see that dating around has its down side. Eventually, people start to want security and reassurance that their partner is on the same page. There might have been nothing in it when she texted me. It was perhaps only two times she texted me while on her date. Both times either he or she were in the bathroom. After that she went dead silent... for 6 weeks. I don't like her or dislike her. I'm not sure about her intentions. I am hoping she's not after a relationship because I really don't want to go down that path again, especially since she's got a daughter.
Author Trail Blazer Posted July 21, 2019 Author Posted July 21, 2019 (edited) So, the date went really well. We were pushed for time as both of us had to be in other places. All up, it was about 90 minutes, but the time just flew! I realized that we talked non stop yet it felt like we could have continued talking all night. The conversation just flowed so well. I fly out for work in a couple of days and don't return until mid-late August. My date said she'd be really keen to catch up again when I'm back, "that's if you also do as well" she said. I wouldn't say that I got this girl wrong. If I wanted a meaningful, long lasting relationship, there's a few red flags. She had told me that she's just moved with her mom. The whole time (5 months total) she'd been doing OLD she was still living with her ex, who she'd been with for 11 years (she's 30 and had a 9 year old daughter). I'm happy to meet again and see where it goes. There was definitely some real chemistry there. She's crazy hot and she said to me (something which I've been oddly told by many of my dates) that, "you look exactly like your profile pics... and that's a really good thing." Edited July 21, 2019 by Trail Blazer
Author Trail Blazer Posted August 15, 2019 Author Posted August 15, 2019 I've just arrived back home from New Mexico where I'd been working in the oilfields. I'm going on a second date this Sunday for lunch. This girl is coming to my house as she currently lives with her mom (her ex-husband lives in their family home while their divorce goes through) so it's not really viable to pick her up. She seems really keen, super keen and has said in many messages how she's looking forward to seeing me. She also came out three days ago and told me that she's changed her status to "relationship" on Bumble, so if I'm not after a relationship then she's not going to put effort into a guy who doesn't want the same thing. I really like her. There's definitely some chemistry there. However, I have a few concerns; Firstly, I am not sure if I want a relationship. I feel that perhaps spending time with her might make me naturally want to spend more time with her and a relationship develops organically. But then, if it doesn't? I don't want to waste her time, but I don't want to be pressured into making a black or white decision. So, I told her that we can talk more about what we want moving forward on the second date. She was happy with that. We added each other on Instagram a week ago. I checked out her story she posted up from last weekend. So, to give a little bit of context, she does pole dancing classes twice a week. Yeah, she posts up some videos, and she does have seemingly random guys follow her. She gets comments on some of her videos, as you could imagine. Nothing vulgar, but you can imagine... so, anyway, she was seeningly at a party where there happened to be a pole at the venue and, well yeah... she danced the pole in a skimpy dress with a bunch of guys cheering on. I mean, she seems more keen than I on the whole relationahip thing. I've never been so ambivalent about being in a relationship, yet I've never had so many women ask me to meet them, go on dates etc. It's a cruel twist of irony when, at times, all I wanted was to find a date... but as I've matured and cared less, now women are more kee than ever. Point being, she wants a relationship but seems to get off on the energy of guys who'd want anything but! And she's after me because I don't give her that kind of attention... really, the only compliment I've made to her about her looks is that she's super fit and that she looks like Scarlett Johansson (which she looks scarily like). It will be interesting, to say the least. I'm going to be honest and tell her that I'm honestly happy to keep seeing her, which I am, but that I still see my ex-girlfriend regularly (strictly in a platonic sense) and also my ex-wife, which she already knows as we have kids. She's in the same boat with her ex husband as they have a nine year old daughter. Another interesting thing, which may or may not have been a good idea on my part is ask her to make a birthday cake for my daughter. She has a side hussle making cakes at home (she's self taught from YouTube and she's very talented) and since I'll be back out in the oilfields of Texas by the time my daughter's birthday comes around, I wanted to a little party for her at my place (seperate to what her mom will do on her actual birthday). My date was more than happy to do the cake. Let's hope the date goes well, eh? I don't want the cake to have laxatives put in it or something!
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