How to introduce yourself

[mortensorchid]

I was googling that age old question of where one can go to meet people, and came across this suggestion. While suggesting a coffee shop as a community meeting place is not an unusual or original suggestion by any means, I was more so interested in this question :

 

Let's assume you see a person across the room and you think he/she is cute. And you decide to approach them in the hope that they will respond. Maybe this is a question for the women as opposed to the men, or vice versa, but I don't know how I would react to someone saying to me as this article suggested "If I buy a brownie would you eat half of it with me?"

 

I don't know about all of you but I would be humiliated if someone laughed at me or reacted with anger. What can I say other than nothing?

[Versacehottie]

This is just a quick answer to ONE of the things you can say:

When you see someone that you think is cute (or just want to be social), ask them how they like the brownie, indicating you have never tried it from that place. Or you can say how much you love the same brownie (though that doesn't really allow the conversation to continue). Generally, you would want to say something that has a question imbedded.

 

 

 

*IMO asking to split a brownie with a stranger is too much as the first thing you say, depending on how it goes it's probably too much but in some cases it'd be ok.

[alphamale]

mutual extended eye contact must be made before anything else goes on

[basil67]

I think it's reasonable to chat if you're lining up for coffee next to someone, but weird as anything if you approach someone who's quietly minding their own business reading or on their phone at a table. I don't think anyone would laugh if approached at the table, they'd likely just be quietly annoyed at having been interrupted in a situation which clearly isn't a social one.

 

In the line is a whole different ballpark. Try catching their attention and then discuss something related to the cafe.

Edited July 16, 2019 by basil67

[divegrl]

Hi!!!

 

Write your name and number on a piece of paper and hand it to him as leaving!

 

I have never done this, but this is the way many men have “approached” me. I think it’s cute!!!

 

Have a beautiful day!

[Woggle]

Just go up and talk to them like a normal person.

[alphamale]

Just go up and talk to them like a normal person.

 

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[lurker74]

I might try the brownie line, not because I think it would work but because if there's already eye contact, nearly anything with confidence would work. Even if she said no, there's plenty of follow up lines, like "Good, I've only been keto for 12 minutes and already I was ready to bail," or whatnot.

 

But otherwise, a simple thing like asking her about what's she's reading or something would be a more common approach.

[smackie9]

Get in their space, walk by them (observe their reaction), position yourself in view (by the door is best so he has no choice but to pass by you if he leaves), Make strong eye contact, smile, carry on with what you are doing, look up again, smile. repeat a few times and remember your body language. If the guy doesn't get up and make his way towards you, there is one more thing you can do.....get up and leave at the same time so that you meet up outside....say hi and smile. If he doesn't take the opportunity to approach you, it's a pass.

[schlumpy]

A coffee shop is a great idea if you can get anyone to look up from their damn phone.

 

So use that damn phone to your advantage. Feign interest in the phone of your intended and pretend be fascinated as he/she proudly outlines all the features. Since you have to get close to see the screen you can allow your "charms" to generate some side interest during the smartphone lecture.

 

Happy hunting

[d0nnivain]

Lines are odd.

 

Smile. Make eye contact. Say hi. Gage the reaction. If it's not warm & inviting, move on. If there is some interest there, pick a cliché like "sure is hot" or "do you think the rain will ever let up?" An interested person will pick up the thread & talk to you. After a new more sentences say, "oh my name is mortonsorchard" & hold out your hand.

[Kitty Tantrum]

Just go up and talk to them like a normal person.

 

Uhhhh, but then they're going to assume that I am a normal person?

 

Can't have that.

[Gretchen12]

If you look available, men that are interested will approach. Sometimes you have to place yourself in his vicinity to get his attention. You can check him out, be sure you look like a nice person. But I'm not one for eye contact and smiling without speaking. The silent stare creeps me out.

[alphamale]

If you look available, men that are interested will approach. Sometimes you have to place yourself in his vicinity to get his attention. You can check him out, be sure you look like a nice person. But I'm not one for eye contact and smiling without speaking. The silent stare creeps me out.

 

how does one "look available" and "look like a nice person"??

[d0nnivain]

how does one "look available" and "look like a nice person"??

 

 

Not screaming a the clerk in the store or burying your head in your phone. making eye contact with people around you & smiling. Recognizing somebody else's humanity rather than simply moving through space the way you would avoid walking into the furniture.

[Gretchen12]

Not screaming a the clerk in the store or burying your head in your phone. making eye contact with people around you & smiling. Recognizing somebody else's humanity rather than simply moving through space the way you would avoid walking into the furniture.

 

Exactly. Thanks!

 

I might add, some people walk around looking angry or stressed, but they are not aware of it. Also some people look busy and turned inward, dealing with some problems while running errands. When people approach strangers to ask for directions, they naturally pick someone who looks like he's available to answer questions and he's gonna be nice about it.