This hot girl messaged me back on match.

[introverted1]

Because you are scrambling about trying to figure out where the situation is going to take you,...rather than where you are going to take the situation.

 

This.

 

So much this.

 

Quit thinking of her as a "hot girl," which already positions you as less than.

 

Take charge.

[jspice]

She’s a college professor, which means she’s so much more than just a “hot girl “.

She sounds well-spoken and is probably well-read. She travels over her summers, while you won’t drive 30 miles for a date. Do you have interests you can talk about? Can you hold a conversation other than about how hot she is?

 

Apart from the like for sports, she sounds like me. Same job, love to travel, sometimes neglects her social life. From your posts here I wouldn’t imagine we’d have much in common, especially not if you call me a “chick”.

 

Brush up on your conversation skills.

[Versacehottie]

Idk, I think when she starts talking about going to bars and not wanting to be a recluse, is a good enough sign for you to take the lead and ask her to meet up. Sounds like maybe she doesn't drink? Ask her which bar has the best water or some flirty banter. To me, she has left 2 things in her message that are ripe for the picking.

 

Good luck

[crispytoast]

Well that one girl read my reply 20 mins ago but hasn't replied back again yet. She mentioned why she moved here for teaching so I asked her what level she teaches and trying to get her to warm up to me. Maybe she will wait 8 hrs to reply again. I hope she didnt find someone that quick and dropped me already

Stop caring. Don't even pay attention to whether or not she viewed the message. You are already setting yourself up for failure by giving so much energy to such an early situation. Caring so much sends the message to yourself and energetically to her that you don't have anything better to do with your time than obsess over emotions. Eek.

[basil67]

Quit calling her a girl. She's a woman. An educated one at that.

[Mountaingirl83]

FYI: She is not a college professor. She said she teaches AP classes at a college PREP school so she is a high school teacher and coach.