Curiousroxy86 Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 It’s funny how when a man wants space/freedom and you give it to him yet he wants to come back around and invade your space But it’s nothing to be excited about If his deal was that he is not interested in a relationship and you were I wouldn’t accept his friend zone. I would ignore him. If you really okay with being just friends and truly don’t care about the outcome by all means respond when he wants to contact and see where it goes. If you deep down want him to be more than friends I wouldn’t get sucked in if I were you. Whichever path you choose date other men. 1
Author Friendorfoe Posted July 15, 2019 Author Posted July 15, 2019 It’s funny how when a man wants space/freedom and you give it to him yet he wants to come back around and invade your space But it’s nothing to be excited about If his deal was that he is not interested in a relationship and you were I wouldn’t accept his friend zone. I would ignore him. If you really okay with being just friends and truly don’t care about the outcome by all means respond when he wants to contact and see where it goes. If you deep down want him to be more than friends I wouldn’t get sucked in if I were you. Whichever path you choose date other men. I know! I’ve given him the space he needs but he keeps interrupting it As to your second paragraph, I don’t know what he wants so it’s hard for me to decide what to do. We got on really well so friends isn’t an impossibility, but I can’t assume what he won’t tell me *
divegrl Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 I know! I’ve given him the space he needs but he keeps interrupting it As to your second paragraph, I don’t know what he wants so it’s hard for me to decide what to do. We got on really well so friends isn’t an impossibility, but I can’t assume what he won’t tell me * Hi!!! He wants to be friends with you and text whenever he is in the mood. Don’t accept this behavior. You are already emotionally invested in him, so friendship is not an option. Block his number so you don’t know if he texts. Have a beautiful day! 3
Curiousroxy86 Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 I know! I’ve given him the space he needs but he keeps interrupting it �� As to your second paragraph, I don’t know what he wants so it’s hard for me to decide what to do. We got on really well so friends isn’t an impossibility, but I can’t assume what he won’t tell me ��* No. You don’t wait to figure out “what he wants” to make decision on what to do. He is NOT your boyfriend. Do YOU want to be just friends or do you want to be more than friends? If you want to be more than friends then you don’t accept his friendzone. Period. I agree with divegirl. What do you want Op? 2
stillafool Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 The best advice I have for you is when a guy tells you he needs space consider it the end. Block him from contacting you and move on with your life. As you can see by not blocking he has you on a yo-yo. No one has time for that as he is a time waster. 2
hippychick3 Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 You should have moved on the moment he told you he didn’t want a relationship, wished him well and ended all the ridiculous meaningless texting that followed. For whatever reason, he lost interest. It happens, and it does no good for you to dwell on it. At this point, just stop responding and move on. Ignore him. 1
Author Friendorfoe Posted July 15, 2019 Author Posted July 15, 2019 No. You don’t wait to figure out “what he wants” to make decision on what to do. He is NOT your boyfriend. Do YOU want to be just friends or do you want to be more than friends? If you want to be more friends then you don’t accept his friendzone. Period. I agree with divegirl. What do you want Op? I would want to give him the space he obviously needs to sort out a few things with the view of meeting up again to see how it felt. I never usually stay friends with someone I’ve dated because it’s easier not to. I’ve only done it with one and that was my ex of 10 years, it took a lot of work to be the friends we are now and even then there are moments where it’s awkward. If this guy wants to do that then fine, if he just wants friends with no view of seeing what happens then I’m out. But he won’t tell me anything!
Curiousroxy86 Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 ok I think your answer to my question was if he just want to be friends that your out... Then get out lol Meaning not trying to see where this goes. Ignore him. Move on and date other men. If he wants to be more than friends and explicitly say so theeeeeen you can respond if you want to and if your still available. Right now I wouldn’t entertain his text messages after he made it clear he don’t want a relationship But do what you want my friend. You have been warned.
stillafool Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 I did ask him that if we met again would it be on the same level as before (eg hugs and kisses) but he ignored it. when it came up again he said he just didnt want to get into that convo. So i let it be. Then continue to just let it be and move on. Stop asking to meet up with a man when he has asked for space. It's over but he doesn't have the balls to tell you this to your face. If he was afraid of losing you he would certainly want to have the discussion but he doesn't. You are back in the friend zone so either accept it or leave him alone now.
Sunlight72 Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 (edited) Can I just say, stop with the texting and call on the phone? This is not insignificant stuff you are trying to understand about your relationship and your life. You are reading allllll kinds of signs from how many minutes or hours he responds or doesn't respond to your texting. You have no idea what is happening on his end of the world when he doesn't respond to a text, and even though you think you're sending a flashing neon sign by not texting for like, what, a day (?) that is not any communication to a lot of people. People sometimes get busy with the world in front of them and texting is a distraction at the moment. Remember how about 8 years ago you yourself would have spent an entire day, a whole week, a complete month without texting someone that you like and value in your life? Some people still value us today and yet don't text for entire days (!!!). It does not mean what you think it means to everyone just because you are hanging on the phone 24/7. Call. Speak. Speak up. Edited July 15, 2019 by Sunlight72 1
Author Friendorfoe Posted July 17, 2019 Author Posted July 17, 2019 Can I just say, stop with the texting and call on the phone? This is not insignificant stuff you are trying to understand about your relationship and your life. You are reading allllll kinds of signs from how many minutes or hours he responds or doesn't respond to your texting. You have no idea what is happening on his end of the world when he doesn't respond to a text, and even though you think you're sending a flashing neon sign by not texting for like, what, a day (?) that is not any communication to a lot of people. People sometimes get busy with the world in front of them and texting is a distraction at the moment. Remember how about 8 years ago you yourself would have spent an entire day, a whole week, a complete month without texting someone that you like and value in your life? Some people still value us today and yet don't text for entire days (!!!). It does not mean what you think it means to everyone just because you are hanging on the phone 24/7. Call. Speak. Speak up. Yup, we are meeting to see how I feel and if I can be friends. If I still feel attraction to him I’ll walk away and not be friends. At least it gives a chance for an honest talk face to face, hate all the texting stuff! 1
TheFinalWord Posted July 17, 2019 Posted July 17, 2019 I guess you said you had deal breakers lined up from the get go. Seems hes broken all those deals, but you haven't cut it off yet. It's more of you wanting something you can't have, rather than genuine attraction. If he was into you, he'd be ready and wouldn't be so wishy washy. If he wanted to take things slow, he could have asked for that and given you are idea of what that looks like. Instead, he gives up, and breaks his own word about cutting back contact. In the mean time, he's giving you false hopes, which is wrong on his end. If he cares about you, he should give you peace and tell you to not get hung up on him. That it's over and best of luck.
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