gingerninja0007 Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 in my group of friends i am attracted to this girl. she is beautiful smart funny and amazing all round. I want to tell her how i feel but i have been rejected quite alot this year alone and im scared also i dont want to make things awkward in the group. (i know she has never been in a relationship before and i know that no one has said that they like her before, well not to her face) any help would be appreciated
alphamale Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 sounds like you're already friends with her. it is very hard to convert a friendship into a romance, it does happen once a while. if you're going to ask her out be sure you are ready to lose her as a friend too. sounds like you already have some good intel on her. you need to take advantage of that to increase your odds of a "yes".
healing light Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 I would just ask this woman if she would like to grab a cup of coffee or do (activity you know she enjoys) sometime. If she says yes, follow up with a specific time and date. Don't overthink it, especially if she's never caught anyone's attention before. You'll regret it if you don't at least put a feeler out there.
Author gingerninja0007 Posted July 14, 2019 Author Posted July 14, 2019 no offence but i think you are wrong as a lot of my friends were good friends with there partners before they got together with them. and i asked for advice on what to do not getting someone to tell me if i ask i will lose her as a friend 1
The Outlaw Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 Telling her outright how you feel will be awkward anyway, but you won't know unless you try. Rejection comes with the territory. It's not totally impossible to leap from friends to more, but it isn't easy. Ask her to do something one on one with you and see how it pans out. If she should return the sentiment, that's great. If not, brush yourself off and move on. Keep trying.
Author gingerninja0007 Posted July 14, 2019 Author Posted July 14, 2019 I would just ask this woman if she would like to grab a cup of coffee or do (activity you know she enjoys) sometime. If she says yes, follow up with a specific time and date. Don't overthink it, especially if she's never caught anyone's attention before. You'll regret it if you don't at least put a feeler out there. yer that is a good idea. i will just have to wait a while as she on holiday for like 3 weeks
Author gingerninja0007 Posted July 14, 2019 Author Posted July 14, 2019 Telling her outright how you feel will be awkward anyway, but you won't know unless you try. Rejection comes with the territory. It's not totally impossible to leap from friends to more, but it isn't easy. Ask her to do something one on one with you and see how it pans out. If she should return the sentiment, that's great. If not, brush yourself off and move on. Keep trying. yer thanks. i just find it hard to ask as in the past even when i wasnt overthinking it i froze up
preraph Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 Don't EVER go up and spew your feelings for someone you have never even been out with!! There is an order to these things. She'll think you're crazy! First you ask them out on a date (and no there are no guarantees they will accept) and you still don't confess any feelings. Just the fact you took them out says all they need to know, that you are interested in getting to know them better, without making you look desperate and needy and like you think you're in love with someone you have not even been out on a date with. Any confession anytime early on will scare anyone away. That's for after you've dated a few months regularly in person, if then, if you're both feeling it. Never confess to someone who you haven't dated romantically and kissed and all that and never confess to someone who may not feel the same. Be normal and ask her on a little date that doesn't last too long so you don't get too nervous. And that's if she's being friendly and willing to talk to you and initiating smiling and talking to you so that you know she even knows you exist. 2
devilish innocent Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 If you get nervous asking her out, she'll understand. It shouldn't be that big of a deal. But if you want to be more relaxed, try this. Take a deep breath before asking her out. Breathe in through your nose on a count of three, hold the breath for a second, and then breathe out on a count of four. You can press lightly on your stomach before breathing out. It will help you feel more relaxed. Also, try picturing yourself asking her out and having it go well. It will be easier to feel confident when you're imagining yourself doing well. I hope she's interested. Relationships that start as friends first often have good success. It means you're getting along and have things in common, so it's a good foundation to build on. 1
Author gingerninja0007 Posted July 14, 2019 Author Posted July 14, 2019 If you get nervous asking her out, she'll understand. It shouldn't be that big of a deal. But if you want to be more relaxed, try this. Take a deep breath before asking her out. Breathe in through your nose on a count of three, hold the breath for a second, and then breathe out on a count of four. You can press lightly on your stomach before breathing out. It will help you feel more relaxed. Also, try picturing yourself asking her out and having it go well. It will be easier to feel confident when you're imagining yourself doing well. I hope she's interested. Relationships that start as friends first often have good success. It means you're getting along and have things in common, so it's a good foundation to build on. thank you this honestly helps a lot. although it wont be a while before i do ask her i will make sure i will sue those tips to try and make things goes smoother
spiderowl Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 (edited) It is best not to go confessing strong feelings to a girl you haven't even dated yet. It will just put her under pressure and likely put her off. Dating is supposed to be fun and relaxing, not intense from the start. Asking her for a coffee seems a great suggestion. You could take something with you that you think she might be interested in - a book or something. Ask her opinion on it. It's just a relaxed way to get talking. If you have a good time over coffee, then ask her on a date. Make it clear it's a date, but do it in a humorous way - like 'I don't know why but I really like you, let's go out for a date to .... wherever she likes. Ask her what day/evening would suit her best. I know it can't be easy. I'm not a guy so don't have to ask girls out. I think if she's not interested in that way, she will become uncomfortable and object, albeit tactfully. It gives you chance to see whether she's open to the idea or not and then respond accordingly. If she puts you off, then you could say something light-hearted like ' Oh that's a shame and I thought we had a great future together'. This shows confidence and gives her the chance to be a bit light-hearted about what could be a difficult situation. Keeping it light-hearted is important because a guy who is not too panicked about rejection is showing a confidence that is actually quite attractive. A couple of the guys I did date in the end were not easily put off. They did not bat an eyelid when I said no, either, they just kept trying again in respectful but humorous ways. It showed me they were strong characters and that is attractive in a guy. It make him stand out from the crowd. Edited July 14, 2019 by spiderowl
alphamale Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 it's all about experience, the more girls you ask out the more confident you'll get no matter whether she says yes or no
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