Author Mayaiana Posted July 14, 2019 Author Posted July 14, 2019 Yea, that through me a bit. I knew I had responded to it, but then there was no post here from me. So I thought either a Mod deleted my post or this had to be a copy of the other thread yeah my mistake for asking for advice on here. "through you?" lol. Btw if he was trying to hint that i need to be acertain way, I asked him how do you put down your walls? he said he was working on it. He would've told me to do this a certain way and that a certain way... but he didn't. And when he said not even your man he blushed and looked down. A couple days before i got flowers and he asked wow who sent you all these flowers, I said special people. Then agan came and grabbed my balloon saying "youre so special" as it said on the balloon but i didn't say anything. then he had this talk with me
ExpatInItaly Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 What advice are you looking for at this point, OP? How to ask him out?
Author Mayaiana Posted July 14, 2019 Author Posted July 14, 2019 What advice are you looking for at this point, OP? How to ask him out? No, because we don't know what he's referring to and took it inh a more personal direction, what can I slyly ask him to gauge what he meant by saying put down your walls. Because he said he's always workign on lowering his but this is all in a personal relationship context since why would he need to lower his walls if he's the boss/doctor? so what can I indirectly ask him?
stillafool Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 Just be direct and ask him what you want to. You're grown and a professional you should know how to handle your colleague. Are you in love with this guy? Why all the questions about his comments?
preraph Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 I think he's just telling you you have an attitude at work and are difficult to deal with and he's just trying to be friendly as he says it. No one likes to work with someone who can't even take orders from their boss and thinks they're all that and better than everyone. Respect has to be earned. So far, the feedback you're getting is you're hard to work with and have an attitude. 2
elaine567 Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 Yes I guess he is doing that thing where you tell someone something they need to change, but you make it better for them by admitting you have the same fault, whether you do or not. He is basically telling you, you are a pain in the ass to work with, and you need to change your attitude. Less confrontational, less defensive and just nicer. Relax, let your guard down. Hospitals rely on team work. 3
Beendaredonedat Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 yeah my mistake for asking for advice on here. "through you?" lol. Btw if he was trying to hint that i need to be acertain way, I asked him how do you put down your walls? he said he was working on it. He would've told me to do this a certain way and that a certain way... but he didn't. And when he said not even your man he blushed and looked down. A couple days before i got flowers and he asked wow who sent you all these flowers, I said special people. Then agan came and grabbed my balloon saying "youre so special" as it said on the balloon but i didn't say anything. then he had this talk with me You are not friendly. 3
JEG88 Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 He's flirting with you in his own way and wants to please your leadership mentality. He obviously wants to get in your pants and is just being coy about it. Is this the answer you want to hear? 1
basil67 Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 I think he's just telling you you have an attitude at work and are difficult to deal with and he's just trying to be friendly as he says it. No one likes to work with someone who can't even take orders from their boss and thinks they're all that and better than everyone. Respect has to be earned. So far, the feedback you're getting is you're hard to work with and have an attitude. This ^^ Yep, you've got attitude, and are difficult to work with due to your arrogance. He's trying to sort it out. 1
frus69 Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 He is trying to tell you that you act like a Bi*CH at work and no one likes a bi*ch at work. 1
stillafool Posted July 16, 2019 Posted July 16, 2019 yeah my mistake for asking for advice on here. "through you?" lol. Btw if he was trying to hint that i need to be acertain way, I asked him how do you put down your walls? he said he was working on it. He would've told me to do this a certain way and that a certain way... but he didn't. And when he said not even your man he blushed and looked down. A couple days before i got flowers and he asked wow who sent you all these flowers, I said special people. Then agan came and grabbed my balloon saying "youre so special" as it said on the balloon but i didn't say anything. then he had this talk with me TBH, I would have asked you the same questions he did and I'm a woman. I don't see romantic interest in what he said to you at all. I would tease and kid a coworker who received flowers whether it was a man or woman.
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