DrNo1962 Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 Corey Wayne (I know, I Know) says in his book "How to be a 3% Man" that in the early stages of courtship you should text/call a girl only once per week if she doesn't reach out after a date. So say you go on a date on Tuesday, you won't reach out to her again to set the next date until the following Monday (assuming she hasn't reached out to you first). I've road-tested this on a number of girls and it fails miserably. Women just get the impression that if you've waited that long then you're interest is very low and they end up rejecting you. Has this "strategy" actually worked for anyone? Do the women on this forum think this is a good idea or does it come off as being too aloof? I've personally had much greater success with mirroring the other person's interest based off intuition and using my sensory acuity.
Gretchen12 Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 That has only happened to me once. The guy was doing the once a week thing. I was genuinely interested in him to begin. The once a week was kind of curious and intriguing only because it was like clockwork and frankly, odd. Then I decided I didn't want to see this guy anymore, not even as a friend, because I realized that the initial few weeks of him going silent week at a time had left negative feelings, so that even when initially I wanted him to call me, I didn't actually like him. I saw the once a week thing as contrived and showed lack of good will on his part. I like a genuine guy with a big warm handshake, a hearty laugh and who calls whenever he feels like it. I don't like coy men and definitely not odd, shadowy men.
damni Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 While I was dating, guys who did this to me I thought were not that 'into me' so I would start dating other guys.
chillii Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 (edited) Snake oil crock of shyt as l would expect from those guys, not that l know anything about any of them l wouldn't waste my time even if l did need help . Just stupid damn games. l've rarely been single since l was 15 and l was married for 20yrs. Why in Gods name would l have ever played ridiculous games like this with a girls heart that l was feeling a lot for and deny us both of all the excitement that comes with meeting somebody and in what would normally be one of the most beautiful times in it all. l'm not talking about some silly nothing date l'm talking about someone special. lnstead she'd be sitting around thinking you didn't giva shyt and you'd be just playing some stupid damn game trying to act like you didn't. l'd feel sorry for those desperate enough to listen to garbage like that from these fools tbh. Edited July 14, 2019 by chillii
chillii Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 While I was dating, guys who did this to me I thought were not that 'into me' so I would start dating other guys. Ha, yeah that's what l would've thought too, great way to blow it imo.
Curiousroxy86 Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 (edited) I find this advice laughable honestly. I wouldn’t date a guy for long who did this. Another suitor who calls would “win” for a lack of better word. I am not saying it doesn’t work at all because I imagine it will work on women who date one dude at a time and he just so happen to be the guy she chooses to focus on, or women who don’t like talking on the phone anyway, or women who have low boundaries about talking on the phone, also one with low to boundaries in general, a woman who doesn’t get much options naturally or maybe just doesn’t have any other prospect at the moment she met him, a woman who is drawn to guys who display “avoidant” behavior and turned off by guys who act interested, women who actually do the pursuing/chasing.... Mirroring/reciprocating interest to me is the best dating strategy for both sexes Edited July 14, 2019 by Curiousroxy86
ExpatInItaly Posted July 14, 2019 Posted July 14, 2019 I am a woman. Yes, it makes you look too aloof and is a turn-off. Guys who showed that little interest were ultimately let go in favour of guys who showed more enthusiasm and mirrored my interest. Don't follow that advice, OP.
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