kgal Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 Tonight my guy and I were talkin on messenger. Towards the end of our convo.. I told him I loved him. He replied with "Luv u 2" Luv? Why wouldn't he use the real word, love? I just found that odd.. he's never said luv! Am I just freakin out over nothin or is he not being sincere?? I know that personally, I have only used "Luv" when I am not serious about the meaning.
Author kgal Posted September 26, 2005 Author Posted September 26, 2005 Well I was gonna ask him.. but he was on his way off to bed. I didn't want to get into it. We were both tired and I will just ask him next time he says it (IF he says it) again.
Jadey Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 Personally when i say luv i mean "friends" love. But maybe hes just shortening the word? Does he use any other "text" words? Your best best is it just straight out ask him!
Author kgal Posted September 26, 2005 Author Posted September 26, 2005 I do that too, Jadey. I never say "Luv" to him because saying the word "Love" is special and I'm always sincere when I say it. I use the term "Luv" when I am just talking to a friend...like you mentioned. I will ask... but not about this.. I want to ask how he feels about us. I need to know. Thanks!!
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I only use one term to say Love.. If I use the word Luv it was because I was in hurry or trying to sound cute..maybe in a card or something I suppose that people use each word for different uses but I don't.. They both mean the same to me.. He might be like me and in that case they are use interchangably and you have nothing to worry about.. But I do agree with LB and you just need to ask him..
TnT Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 Maybe he was just tired and didnt think anything of it. My man has done this to me before while talking on the net, and i had the same thoughts as u, but didnt say anything about it, cos i dont think he ment it that way. I think he was just in a hurry or something. But yeah, if u dont feel comfortable about it, mention it to him, but it might turn out that he didnt even notice and it might have been a simple typo.
Author kgal Posted September 26, 2005 Author Posted September 26, 2005 Well..considering that he's NEVER said "Luv" in place of "Love" before.. and he's been acting "different" in such he doesn't talk to me as often or as long as he used to. I knooooow that he works alot... gets up at 5am every morning... so he is beat and tired when he gets home. I dont want to get on him about it... because he would prob. say, "Oh.. I didn't even know, sorry" I am pretty sensitive and sometimes he does or says things that he doesn't know effect me. I guess I should just let it go... but I do want to ask him about our 'ship. I still plan to do that.
UCFKevin Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I doubt it means anything at all, the fact that he didn't use the word "love." I wouldn't worry about it.
simplybrill Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I would just ask him, sometimes things aren't that deep. He probably meant he loves you too! Hey Kevin, did you ever get that spot on the O.C.?
Tiny Dancer Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 Well..considering that he's NEVER said "Luv" in place of "Love" before.. and he's been acting "different" in such he doesn't talk to me as often or as long as he used to. Kgal, my opinions are tainted by my reality so please excuse me if I am compltetly off base here. I'm a lawyer and for years practiced divorce law. I learned during that time that frequently it's the little things that start to give someone away when they are cheating on their partner. When we interact with new people it's only human to pick up on some of their mannerisms, sayings, etc. (New music, new hobbies, different or new slang even.) I have to ask serious questions when someone starts spelling a word as simple and important as "love" differently. Given the fact that you indicate that he is starting to act differently I would keep my eyes open. If you ask him about it so soon he will most likely just blow it off like you said, and then be more careful if he's actually getting involved with someone else. If you give it some time and observe him a little longer you may learn more. If you choose to wait just make sure that you can keep yourself from going insanely jealous contemplating the possibilities. Remember, you don't know anything concrete yet, and it may all prove to just be nothing. If you accuse him of something that isn't happening it will be very damaging to your relationship. Before you start asking any questions also remember that when people lie they almost always give themselves away. Body language is VERY important. For instance when people lie they frequently make micro-expressions, touch their faces a lot, or even yawn inappropriately. Also, realize that men and women communicate differently. That means we lie differently too. Most men don't normally go into a lot of detail when telling about something. One indication that a man may be lying is his willingness to include a LOT of detail in any explanation he gives you to explain himself about suspicious activity.
Author kgal Posted September 26, 2005 Author Posted September 26, 2005 Kgal, my opinions are tainted by my reality so please excuse me if I am compltetly off base here. I'm a lawyer and for years practiced divorce law. I learned during that time that frequently it's the little things that start to give someone away when they are cheating on their partner. When we interact with new people it's only human to pick up on some of their mannerisms, sayings, etc. (New music, new hobbies, different or new slang even.) I have to ask serious questions when someone starts spelling a word as simple and important as "love" differently. Given the fact that you indicate that he is starting to act differently I would keep my eyes open. If you ask him about it so soon he will most likely just blow it off like you said, and then be more careful if he's actually getting involved with someone else. If you give it some time and observe him a little longer you may learn more. If you choose to wait just make sure that you can keep yourself from going insanely jealous contemplating the possibilities. Remember, you don't know anything concrete yet, and it may all prove to just be nothing. If you accuse him of something that isn't happening it will be very damaging to your relationship. Before you start asking any questions also remember that when people lie they almost always give themselves away. Body language is VERY important. For instance when people lie they frequently make micro-expressions, touch their faces a lot, or even yawn inappropriately. Also, realize that men and women communicate differently. That means we lie differently too. Most men don't normally go into a lot of detail when telling about something. One indication that a man may be lying is his willingness to include a LOT of detail in any explanation he gives you to explain himself about suspicious activity. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I am scared. I have a bad feeling about this entire "thing" (his behavior)... Something I didn't mention is that last time we spoke over the phone, he was sayin stuff like, "Are you sure you want me? I'm old! When I'm (this age) you will be (this age)" He's also told me that he's prepared for me to meet someone here and says it's bound to happen cuz "I'm hot" and guys are going to always hit on me at work and such. His phone is off right now, so we only talk online for now... before his phone was cut off... we were talking every night.. and our conversations were healthy. I didn't assume anything was wrong. He told me that he wanted me to come visit him in October.. so I don't think he's cheating. If he was cheating.. he wouldn't invite me there, right? He's also told me his daily schedule... cuz he knows that I am insecure at times, especially when I don't hear from him when he says he will call or write/whatever. Ugh.. we just have to talk. I'm sick of not knowing what is up.
Tiny Dancer Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I didn't realize that this was a long-distance situation, I should have read the thread more closely! I was just scanning the new posts. I am sorry. I had one of those and you're right about needing to talk. It's hard when you can't hear their voice. Since the reason you're not talking is because his phone is off that is really a different matter entirely. From the comments he makes it sounds like he knows he's lucky to have you and is worried that you may not feel the same way. That changes my perspective on it all. Yes, it's definitely a good sign that he wants you to come visit. I didn't realize that the only way you had to communicate was IM. In that case I guess I wouldn't try to read too much into the way he spelled "love". At least he said it... right? Long distance relationships depend on trust by both parties, even more than those that don't have to deal with the distance issue. When you're apart is not the time to start having doubts. When you have time to spend together see how things go. It's very likely that it was just a typo on his part because he was tired but still wanted to get a message to you. (Just put all that other stuff I said on the back burner. Lawyers are notoriously suspicious... especiall divorce lawyers:rolleyes: I'm sorry to have alarmed you. I obviously didn't have all the facts.)
hopelessly hopefull Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 i think you're freaking out over nothing IMO
Author kgal Posted September 27, 2005 Author Posted September 27, 2005 LOL.. Well.. I must say that I shouldn't flip out so much. I guess its just that I want to take the next step further with our relationship. I want things to be more serious.. I want commitment.. and I want to be near him.
UCFKevin Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 SimplyBrill, yeah, I was on it a few times. Never watched it, though. Being on it soured my interest in the show. Awful experience.
HotCaliGirl Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 anything you could share about the awful experience? now i'm curious!
UCFKevin Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 They treat people like crap on there. Make people wear layers and layers of clothes on a hot summer day with no break to drink or wipe sweat off or anything, they just cover up the sweat with makeup. And the cast is all completely up their own asses, specifically Adam Brody. He has a VERY bad reputation in Hollywood, he's widely known as a pompous bastard.
sundrop Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 My ex used Luv to be cute, when he did mean Love.
HotCaliGirl Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 They treat people like crap on there... I used to be a personal assistant for a famous director - on set, the actors wanted to be treated like gods and worshipped, but mostly the newbies. The veteran actors, directors and producers are more down to earth and it doesn't go to their head. But those lower on the rung - like the assistants, crew and newbies - they could make things difficult.
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