Did i bribe my boyfriend into forgiving me with a candy bar? I feel stupid

[Flame Aura]

How old are you?

 

I can see why he got upset, those are personal matters that you keep inside the relationship not discuss with others.

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[KinderTingz]

23. I see but i didn’t think it was that huge of a deal. I made a mistake i wasn’t tying to speak badly on him i just felt like it was a casual conversation

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[preraph]

Oh my goodness. Your friends are upset because you are paying your boyfriend's bills AND apologizing to him for the privilege when he gets touchy about it. They are completely right. This is about you being taken advantage of and letting him walk all over you and then scold you for telling the truth to your friends, which you should never stop doing because if he doesn't like the truth, then he can pay his own bills. Plus you need to run things past friends because they can tell you when you're doing too much and getting into an unbalanced state in your relationship, which they have now done.

[KinderTingz]

I’m confused he’s mad because I told his business but, I didn’t think anything of it. He thinks they’re going to go around telling everyone’s he’s borrowing money and can’t support hisself etc

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[schlumpy]

23. I see but i didn’t think it was that huge of a deal. I made a mistake i wasn’t tying to speak badly on him i just felt like it was a casual conversation

 

You are certainly old enough to manage your own affairs and learn from your own mistakes.

 

I do find it troubling that he accepted money from you.

 

Best Wishes

[KinderTingz]

You are certainly old enough to manage your own affairs and learn from your own mistakes.

 

I do find it troubling that he accepted money from you.

 

Best Wishes

 

He does all the time

[preraph]

I’m confused he’s mad because I told his business but, I didn’t think anything of it. He thinks they’re going to go around telling everyone’s he’s borrowing money and can’t support hisself etc

 

Which is true. He can't. There's a saying I've tried to live by which is don't do anything you'd mind other people finding out about.

[preraph]

You've become his mother instead of his lover, and that is not going to go well. See, he's already mad at you like he would be his mother instead of just super grateful you helped him out. He feels entitled like it's his allowance. Stop paying his bills. Tell him to get a job or get two jobs or whatever the issue is. He's ungrateful. You need to keep your money separate from him.

[KinderTingz]

He asked me to co-sign on things all the time too it’s like he doesn’t see it as a problem but it hurts when he won’t sacrifice so i don’t have to help him out

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[basil67]

If he is embarrassed about people knowing you're paying his bills, he should find a way to pay his bills without involving you. Also, when your friends ask why you've been working so much, it's perfectly reasonable to be honest with them. They are simply looking out for your well being.

 

You did nothing wrong and shouldn't have apologised. I suggest that you tell your boyfriend that you appreciate that he doesn't want your friends knowing about you paying for bills....and so that you don't have to lie to your friends, you won't pay his bills in future.

[preraph]

Your boyfriend is just using you, and one of these days you're going to get severely burned by him co-signing on something and then you're going to end up having to pay for it yourself or else ruin Your own credit. Look at his own parents or relatives no better than the cosigner lending money, and that ought to tell you something.

[Curiousroxy86]

hmmmm I felt like I heard this story recently on LS before

 

anyhoo im going to say what I said to the last poster who had the same issue

 

1) go ahead with your apology about talking to your friends about his business if you haven't already

2) if he remains distant break up

3) if yall work it out please stop giving him money (especially if he is being a moocher and not trying to better his own situation. if this is the case breakup)

4) if it is the same poster you need to break up with that home girl of yours too. if not ignore number 4

 

good luck