semi Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 So I got dumped about 4 months ago. I am doing alright. I have accepted everything and moved on i guess. It is very rarely that I feel pain when I think about her. But I do think about her a lot. She is completely out of my life and even moved away, I haven't seen her or had any communication with her in 4 months. Since we broke up I haven't been myself. I don't know if it is her that I am worried about or if it is my own insecurities. Probably my own insecurities. I am just so reserved around people and shy and wanting to please people. I can barely remember the last time I purposely got into an argument with someone or disagreed with someone about anything. I just want her out of my mind and back to the old me or maybe a new me. I don't know but basically I want to know if I need therapy or if this is workable on my own.
quankanne Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 are you involved in anything? activities where you're interacting with other people? My guess is that as you become more active, you'll start thinking of her less. The key is to get busy doing things that you enjoy, which supplants the amount of time spent thinking about her. So yeah, it's something you can do on your own.
lynnered Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 how do U feel about U ? are U doing things U like ? dating ? setting goals? working out? are U overanalyzing yourself&, avoiding people ? are ur thoughts positive about U? what was the old U like ? what do U want the "new U"to be like? this is Ur time to work on U,please dont waste it mourning her ! make a decision to change the way U feel right now, U control Ur thoughts. if U start to think of her think of something else,do something,i have little mantra on cards that i read over & over . remember, U are responsible for changing your life. if U try i think U can heal yourself if U dont feel better then YES- talk with a therapist. goodluck
loveisallaround Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 It's obvious: You're still, one way or another, not over her. Think long and hard about what happened, the lesson it presented and what you haven't grasped. I gurantee you that the moment you hint upon that reason and truly understand it, you'll be free of your shackles and ready to tackle bigger and brighter things.
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