Cippy Posted July 10, 2019 Posted July 10, 2019 I work with a guy and I can’t tell if I am making things up or whether he is giving off subtle hints. He certainly has a sense of humour and likes to tease. He has made sexual comments ie about me touching him He has purposely nudged me over to get food.. in a playful way He has told me he wanted a hug, because I had hugged another staff member.. and then he brought it up again He has made comments like insinuating I maintain my appearance He came into my office today with one other lady just to chat When there are work outings he asks me if I’m going Sometimes I just feel like there is this “ look” in his eyes He makes jokes.. he knows I’ll laugh at He has offered to lend me something of his from home as well I don’t know if I’m overthinking this or are there to many things for it to be a co-incidence.
Maddie82 Posted July 10, 2019 Posted July 10, 2019 (edited) I think you may be overthinking it. Many of your points don't point to anything. It just sounds like he is comfortable around you and enjoys your company. I have a male colleague who I'm pretty close with (i call him my work bestie because he's like a best friend to both me AND my husband). We joke around and laugh and tease, but there are no romantic feelings there for either of us. I'm happily married and he's a single dad. He's a really good person and a great friend to me. Nothing more. Edited July 10, 2019 by Maddie82
PRW Posted July 10, 2019 Posted July 10, 2019 He has made sexual comments ie about me touching him He has purposely nudged me over to get food.. in a playful way He has told me he wanted a hug, because I had hugged another staff member.. and then he brought it up again He has made comments like insinuating I maintain my appearance He came into my office today with one other lady just to chat These above don't indicate much. Guys will do that with a woman at work if they think she is attractive and fun to be around but not really trying or expecting anything to happen. When there are work outings he asks me if I’m going Sometimes I just feel like there is this “ look” in his eyes He has offered to lend me something of his from home as well These indicate he is interested The problem is that he shows signs that he doesn't have the confidence to make his intentions clear which can make him irratic or unstable if things don't turn out well. But then men have to be more careful in a work environment when it comes to this stuff because they can lose their job or at least ruin the ability to work together. So,...it is up to you. Do one of these... 1. Respond back to him as if you are interested if you in fact are and allow him to progress. OR 2. Don't respond back if you aren't interested and back away a little bit so that hopefully he backs off a bit.
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2019 Posted July 10, 2019 He's definitely flirting but on this forum it's hard to say if there is more. Have you ever interacted with him outside of the office? If not, there might not be anything there
smackie9 Posted July 10, 2019 Posted July 10, 2019 You won't know his intentions until the day he asks you for your number and asks you out. For all you know he has a GF and he's pay around at work....you know dipping his toes in but not taking the plunge.
alphamale Posted July 10, 2019 Posted July 10, 2019 if you like your job then disregard these items on your list 1
Flame Aura Posted July 10, 2019 Posted July 10, 2019 Don't see any signs of interest from what you have posted. Until he actually asks you out I wouldn't get too excited. You could always ask him out instead. 1
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