GreatToBeHere Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 Maybe this is no big deal but I guess I am not feeling too great about it so would appreciate some advice. My boyfriend and I live together. This morning, I mentioned that I wouldn't mind going to the markets but he wasn't interested. He then went and had a shower and said he was going out. I asked him where he was going and it is in the vicinity of the markets where I wanted to go. He wanted to go by himself. I felt a bit hurt by this because I would like to do things together.
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 Yes you are being to sensitive.. He didn't want to go with you .. There will be other times that he won't .. Most will revolve around shopping.. Relax.. If that is all then just try and go with the flow..
Author GreatToBeHere Posted September 26, 2005 Author Posted September 26, 2005 Thanks for that. I guess it's a bit of a weekly occurence which is what bothers me a bit. Anyhow, I didn't try to stop him going, I just said OK I'll go to the markets by myself and said I was a bit dissapointed that he didn't want to come with me. Hope that's OK.
mrstyles Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 hmmm.... just communicate with the guy, don't pry, but ask him what he's up to today etc. i don't think its to unreasonable to expect him to give a little, especially if your in the same area, after all you are partners... there is a certain level of responsibility/ commitmnet with this.....
Author GreatToBeHere Posted September 26, 2005 Author Posted September 26, 2005 You know maybe I am being too sensitive but he has been gone for 4 hours. Just sent him a message to see where he is and he is at the casino. Sent him one back saying I guess I should plan my own weekends. Got one back saying "not at all". Just don't get it.
Author GreatToBeHere Posted September 27, 2005 Author Posted September 27, 2005 I went out Saturday night to a function I was organising and he didn't want to come. That was fine but I gave him the option. Always give him the option to come if he wants too. He finally got home from the casino at around 6pm. I told him I wasn't too happy about it and said if that's the way you want the relationship to go well then I will just make my own plans for the weekend. Actually I was dressed to go out but he talked me into staying home. He was very nice, cuddly etc bla bla bla.... Said he didn't understand what all the fuss was about. I said I don't mind him going out for a few hours if he feels he needs some space but that was for the whole day. What's more is I asked him why he didn't tell me that he was going to the casino and he said he didn't know at the time he left. I don't believe that actually. I think he had his day planned from the start. In fact I wouldn't have known where he was if I didn't send him a message asking him at around 2pm. He said he couldn't work out what the big deal was. He said that I went out Saturday and he didn't mind. I said that's different, I asked you to come along. He didn't give me an option to come along with him. Then I just said well you tell me how you want this relationship to go and then I'll know what I'm doing for the weekend. I could've planned to go out and do things. He said he didn't want the relationship to go like that. End of the story. See what happens. What do you think of that?
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