Beendaredonedat Posted July 11, 2019 Posted July 11, 2019 Maybe I'll continue dating others while maintaining a platonic relationship with her for the time being and see if anything changes in time. Would that be a reasonable way to handle this in your opinion? How do you suppose you will cut back on your attachment to her from romantic to platonic? How do you suppose that is fair to other women you date when you're there for her as "a friend" when she has another emotional breakdown or threat of killing herself. Again up to you what you do but you seem too invested in the mere "potential" which is blinding you to the red flags that you actually see but are willing to ignore.
smackie9 Posted July 11, 2019 Posted July 11, 2019 IMO you are playing with fire. She doesn't know what she is doing, but surviving. It's like she is driving with a blind fold on, she knows where she wants to be, but can't see where she is going.
preraph Posted July 11, 2019 Posted July 11, 2019 If she wants to date, I'd date, but be prepared for obstacles. Making new memories can help overwrite bad ones in Ptsd. Ask her to tell you all triggers up front so you can work around those together.
Author Nevada 23 Posted July 11, 2019 Author Posted July 11, 2019 If she wants to date, I'd date, but be prepared for obstacles. Making new memories can help overwrite bad ones in Ptsd. Ask her to tell you all triggers up front so you can work around those together. I thought about doing that recently, but she seems to be doing better right now as far as her mood goes and I don’t want to say anything that could make her go back to how she was feeling before.
Woggle Posted July 11, 2019 Posted July 11, 2019 If she is getting some kind of help and wants to continue dating then date but don't think that it is your obligation to absorb that trauma yourself. That won't help you or her. People who go through trauma like that can go on to have healthy relationships. Elizabeth Smart got married and I read somewhere that one of the women held hostage in Cleveland by that Castro guy got married.
Beendaredonedat Posted July 13, 2019 Posted July 13, 2019 I thought about doing that recently, but she seems to be doing better right now as far as her mood goes and I don’t want to say anything that could make her go back to how she was feeling before. More walking on egg shells.
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