mants123 Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 The short story is: I met this girl last year, been texting for a few months (since we live in different timezone). It's been going very well when out of a sudden, she started responding less frequently, sometimes not replying back. I know she's been busy, so would sometimes switch topics and she would then reply back, sometimes enthusiastically. But, I recently found out that she might have finally "ignored" me on messenger as the messages didn't get delivered... I feel really bad now because she might have felt pestered, where my intention was purely to develop a friendship and get to know her better. I don't believe I've come off too strong, it was all pure friendly conversations. Why would she have done that and is there anything I can do? I really like her and above anything else and especially with the distance, I just want to be her friend and get to know her better?
smackie9 Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 She found somebody else to chat with. You are like chewing gum....you lost your flavor. 5
stillafool Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 She has met someone else. Now is the time to stop trying to get to know her because she has lost interest. The good news is that there are thousands of other women to pursue. 1
Saracena Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 Not much you can do OP but basicaly just ghost back! Sounds as if she was giving you hints she was losing interest by distancing herself before this. Sorry.
bluesfan Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 ghosting happens. Most recent one was this cute chick. I sent a really nice message to her and asked her some stuff and about myself. She replies back later that day and was asking me about my career since I own a small business and she told me about being a social worker counselor doing group therapy session for addiction. I reply back explaining the type of business I do and such. I told her it was a kiosk at a big local fleamarket and that I sell mobile device accessories. She read the message and never replied again to me. She's online just about everyday too. I guess because my business is in a fleamarket she considers it below her and a POS business that doesn't make a lot of money. I mean, she wasn't a PHD and I know from people who do it that social workers in that field do not make a lot of money themselves so it's not like she's all that herself. Regarding ghosting, Do you think after awhile it's okay to send a funny messaging joking about being ghosted? Just to let them know what they did to you but not in a mean way.
MINAKO Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 Nah, screw her. She does not have the decency to answer you back and would rather leave you just guessing. I have been in your shoes, where I was too available to the other person and they would take forever to answer or play games like these. I would even bring it up and joke about it - but no, these people never change. I would ghost her back and hopefully she realizes what she did was wrong, but in my experiences, again, these people are who they are. They lack that general compassion normal people have so instead of being direct, just disappears from time to time or permanently, leaving the other person in the dark. There is no possible way to know exactly what happened, but just know her behaviour is not normal or kind. You are better off without this. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 People ghost for all sorts of reasons, and maybe it didn't even have anything to do with you. Maybe she was married.
bluesfan Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 People ghost for all sorts of reasons, and maybe it didn't even have anything to do with you. Maybe she was married. Another ghosting one recently was this chick, one of the few local chicks even on match within my entire county ghost me. She replies back to me asking me stuff about the area since she's new and ask me about my job and such and overall a pretty long reply. It was the weekend and I'm at my business and I don't have time to answer all her questions while waiting on MY customers who pay my bills so I simply reply back that I'm at work and I'll reply back to you later tonight or tomorrow. She reads the message but no reply. I messaged her a day later to her reply answering her questions she asked and she never read the message. I messaged her a week later and still wont read my messages. She's online about every other day too. So she was mad because I didn't reply quickly to her questions. The world doesn't revolve around her. She was also just average looking too. Nice smile, face okay too but about 15lbs overweight anyway. Not a big loss miss piggy.
preraph Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 People get tired of keeping up with people online when there's really no point or end in sight. You get cycled out as new activities get cycled in. 1
The Outlaw Posted July 9, 2019 Posted July 9, 2019 I was just like you once. But believe me when I tell you there's nothing you can do. She's said it all without saying a single word. Ghosting speaks volumes about a person loud and clear. She did you a favor.
Candygirl1414 Posted July 10, 2019 Posted July 10, 2019 Seems like she lost interest in chatting or has moved onto someone else. As much as it sucks for you considering the distance it’s hard to sustain a relationship without actually meeting. Seems like she came to that realization and moved on. I suggest you move on as well and don’t contact her again. If she reaches out in the future fine but focus on meeting people that you actually be with in person! Much more rewarding
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