Author toomanyquestions123 Posted September 16, 2019 Author Posted September 16, 2019 Haha, I guess I am not seeking an advice yet about this situation, but since i already posted about him 2 months ago, i thought about making an update, trust me, i know what i should do in this situation. If he is not interested, i just back off. It's as simple as that, i dont waste my time on men who are not interested in me anymore. I didnt find it wrong to go with him to a wedding, he did not do me wrong last time, so i thought of giving a second chance, he was not ******* and a douche that does not deserve to see him again especially that we really enjoyed our time together on our first date.
winny Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 Haha, I guess I am not seeking an advice yet about this situation, but since i already posted about him 2 months ago, i thought about making an update, trust me, i know what i should do in this situation. If he is not interested, i just back off. It's as simple as that, i dont waste my time on men who are not interested in me anymore. I didnt find it wrong to go with him to a wedding, he did not do me wrong last time, so i thought of giving a second chance, he was not ******* and a douche that does not deserve to see him again especially that we really enjoyed our time together on our first date. Unless there is a serious lack of eligible bachelors where you live, I would rather spend those 8 hrs going out on 3 dinner dates with guys who are more interested in me rather than this guy. I would never give him so much time unless he has shown some serious interest first. He should be a low priority guy on your list not a guy that you give so many hours to as soon as he show up. 2
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted September 16, 2019 Author Posted September 16, 2019 I can't see him as someone who is not serious or someone who asked me to go with him to a wedding just because other girls rejected him before me. I can't see he is a guy who doesn't deserve to spend 8 hours with him. He is like any other potential guy who i go out on dates with to see if its gonna work out. At the wedding, he was really showing me off to his friends, dancing the whole time, looking/staring at me. He could have gone alone, if he doesn't like me he wouldn't ask me to go with him to a close friend's wedding. But i get all your point, and you are right about choosing wisely whom to spend my time with, but i connected with this guy the first time and he traveled, then now he is back and he even told me yesterday he is emotionally available and he doesnt mind starting a new relationship. He is a potential but this doesn't mean i won't back off if i see signs of flakiness/fooling around. Maybe he just wants someone to hang out with on weekends, i don't know, but i just wanted to go to the wedding with him because we connected the first time and i didnt have a better thing to do on Sunday night tbh. It was a very fancy wedding btw lol.
Maddie82 Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 I am not sure i like him to start with. So all this time you spent posting about him with us advising you, and you're not even sure you like him now? 2
justwhoiam Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 He tried to flirt with me, i shut him down many times, we spent more than 8 hours together yesterday and i did not really feel i would lower myself for him in case he is not really interested. On our way back from the wedding, he suddenly said you are so much "fun", i told him yeah you said that the first time and you stopped talking to me when you traveled. He might work hard to get your mood back, or you could just give in after a few dates. It's all up to you. I think you can totally give in after a few dates I wouldn't though, if I were you. I am not sure i like him to start with Right. I guess he put you off. But he can bring it back easily. people think here that i immediately fall in love with any guy who asks me out [...] i need to see if someone who is really interested in me If he is not interested, i just back off. :lmao: Is that your plan not to fall for him? It takes so very little then... I can't see him as someone who is not serious Why? I think seriousness can only be demonstrated through one's behavior. In practice. or someone who asked me to go with him to a wedding just because other girls rejected him before me Well, I don't know what happens in your country, but where I live (and not just here) there are two categories of people receiving wedding invitations: 1. relatives (from closest family members to distant ones, depending on budget and type of wedding) 2. friends You can either invite the household or an individual, but I've never heard that friends can bring other friends. If a friend or relative has a partner (girlfriend/boyfriend) unknown to the prospective newlyweds, it's common courtesy to ask if they can come along when RSVPying. You went to the wedding as a mere friend. Which sounds weird to me. Single people often don't like going to weddings on their own... wedding can end up being very boring, they sometimes seem neverending, and all the relatives will ask you why you're still alone... there are people paying for someone who will accompany them to a wedding! So I think he had no one better to take with him, and going alone looked like a sadder option. He is like any other potential guy who i go out on dates with No, because you don't know the others, while you partially know this one. So you can't compare. And if something went wrong with him already, he's at a disadvantage on the others who didn't do anything hurtful yet. He could have gone alone, if he doesn't like me he wouldn't ask me to go with him to a close friend's wedding. He could have. But he had the option of taking someone. He did. See above. he doesnt mind starting a new relationship One thing is wanting it and looking forward to it, another is not minding it... He is a potential but this doesn't mean i won't back off if i see signs of flakiness/fooling around. Hopefully you'll find that out before getting intimate with him. 2
Maggiemay1 Posted September 17, 2019 Posted September 17, 2019 I can't see him as someone who is not serious or someone who asked me to go with him to a wedding just because other girls rejected him before me. At the wedding, he was really showing me off to his friends, dancing the whole time, looking/staring at me. He could have gone alone, if he doesn't like me he wouldn't ask me to go with him to a close friend's wedding. But i get all your point, and you are right about choosing wisely whom to spend my time with, but i connected with this guy the first time and he traveled. He is a potential but this doesn't mean i won't back off if i see signs of flakiness/fooling around. Weddings are boring!!! Most people fake their enjoyment of a wedding because it’s apparently the most important day to their nearest and dearest. He was showing you off at the wedding , not because he was proud of you , but for his own pride. I’ll let you think about that ! You say you will back off if signs of flakiness. But how can you when yiu cavt see or ignore those signs?? He made no effort to see you before he left and no effort to keep in contact when he left. Under the pretence that he was “travelling” for a year. Funny how suddenly he is home 2 months later and not travelling for another year ? Do you even know if he left the country??
frus69 Posted September 18, 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 How long have you known this guy? Im really confused with your timeline.. You were just seeing some athlete/ engineering guy a month ago and now there's this guy from twitter? And you have gone to weddings and road trips with him?
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted September 18, 2019 Author Posted September 18, 2019 I went out with Twitter guy at the beginning of July, we were going out as friends, but then we kissed at the end of it and it was a beautiful kiss and i enjoyed my time with him and it was sad that it didn't escalate but he told me before going out that he was travelling. Then he traveled, i met Rugby guy in the middle of July, dated for one month. Twitter guy came back at the beginning of September, his business startup was not working out the way he wanted it to work in the country he traveled to,came back to home town, started hitting on me again and invited me to this wedding. Just for the record, Twitter guy thinks we are dating now. He is talking to me all the time, but after i gave him the benefit of the doubt and went with him to this wedding, my interest towards him lowered, i didn't really like him, he is very interesting, smart, fun to be with, but IDK i didn't like that he didn't talk to me while he was away and it looks like I'm getting better in not giving guys who don't deserve it second chances. I want someone who really knows my worth since the beginning. Thank you all for your kind advice xxxx
frus69 Posted September 18, 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 If I may throw a wild guess...are you only dating middle eastern guys ?
Maggiemay1 Posted September 18, 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 Just for the record, Twitter guy thinks we are dating now. He is talking to me all the time, but after i gave him the benefit of the doubt and went with him to this wedding, my interest towards him lowered, i didn't really like him, he is very interesting, smart, fun to be with, but IDK i didn't like that he didn't talk to me while he was away and it looks like I'm getting better in not giving guys who don't deserve it second chances. What was the point of this thread? You did give him a second chance! So you went to a wedding with a guy , you don’t like. Why? Why does he think you are dating? You say he is talking to you all the time, but he can only talk to you if you are talking back. So you are talking to him all the time, right?? Well , next time you talk to him, tell him you don’t like him and try explain why you went on a road trip with him!
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted September 18, 2019 Author Posted September 18, 2019 Before the wedding, i liked him yes, he is very interesting and fun to be around, our first date was amazing, one of the best dates i went to in two years and it was a bummer that he traveled. He came back, invited me to a wedding, i wouldnt say no to a guy i connected with. When we went out, i realized the thing i felt for him was temporary and not real. THAT'S IT LOL.
Maggiemay1 Posted September 18, 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 Before the wedding, i liked him yes, he is very interesting and fun to be around, our first date was amazing, one of the best dates i went to in two years and it was a bummer that he traveled. He came back, invited me to a wedding, i wouldnt say no to a guy i connected with. When we went out, i realized the thing i felt for him was temporary and not real. THAT'S IT LOL. So this quote you said was BS? “ I want someone who really knows my worth since the beginning” It seems you didn’t know his worth from the beginning but only after a second date. Yet you expected him to know your worth after one? Very hypocritical. Have you told him that you aren’t dating him yet or are you still talking to him all the time??
Maddie82 Posted September 18, 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 Just for the record, Twitter guy thinks we are dating now. He is talking to me all the time, but after i gave him the benefit of the doubt and went with him to this wedding, my interest towards him lowered, i didn't really like him. You need to tell him this and stop stringing him along. 2
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